How many are close with their mother and/or not close to their father?

[brassieres]

I was alwayd close with my mom. My father was the typical macho male. My parents divorced whrn young. Just wondering if others had simular experiences?

[Karren H]

I was equally distant from both of them!

[Savannah Daniels]

Closer to my Mother. Not that my Dad doesn't love me, he's just not demonstrative, very quiet.

[Intertwined]

Keep your hands and arms, inside the vehicle at all times, this is a bumpy ride...

1st; No, I wasn't really close to my dad, he was not close or open to anyone that I could recall.

Mom & Dad seperate when I was 2 years old.

Joint custody...!

1 year, I would live with mom in Oceanside, dad would come and pick me up on weekends and I would stay with him in San Clemente

Next year, I would live with dad, and he would take me to my moms for the weekends.

2 elementary schools, Palmquest & Ole Hanson
2 Middle schools, Lincoln Jr. High & Shorecliffs Middle
2 High Schools, El Camino High & San Clemente High

And I wonder why I am so screwed up?

[sandra-leigh]

I think I was perhaps closer to my father when he was alive. My interest in sciences of various kinds, I got from him, and I loved when we would go to museums or field trips or when he would take me to work and let me hang around in his electro/mechanical lab.

But my father died when I was 13, and my sister and I had to really step in and take on a lot, and in time I became close to my mother. During my sister's Rebellious Teen years, I was closer to my mother than my sister was, but once my sister settled down she and my mother became very close.

I moved about 1000 miles away from my mother about 20 years ago, for work reasons; I've been thinking for a few years that I should move back to be around to help her now that she is getting older. (Unfortunately, that area has a glut of people whose skills overlap mine, so getting a job there would not be easy.)

[marny]

Feel like I'm in therapy writeing this. Lost my father @ 14 after watching him get progressivly sicker for five years.( cancer) Meantime and post , my mother medicated with vodka. At least Mom kept a nice wrap around bra and a set of falsies in her drawer. That was my start. Once i got the taste........impossible to turn back. Can't put the genie back in the bottle!

[bridget thronton]

Much closer to my mother than my father.

[*Vanessa*]

... Joint custody...!

And I wonder why I am so screwed up?

I was thinking - 'over achiever' as I read this.. lol
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For me; I was closer to my mother then dad. He was a good provider for the family, however family life was more like Swiss cheese and a good mozzarella. I was a nasty piece of work when young and told to leave home at 16years. I would show up every 2 or 3 years to say hi.

Fast forward 3/4 of a life time after dad passed and I have something in common with mom. We both have Glaucoma and I have less then 20/100 vision in one eye.

Fast forward another 6 years and she doesn't know who I am. That makes me sad. That's the way it is. I have had surgery to get rid of an eperitinal membrane and with glasses have 20/40 visions. Live is good !!

[Jocelyn Quivers]

I'm close with both my mother and father, I recently told my father and his response was the same as my mother's in that he said he will always be proud of me, and this side of me does not change anything, in that I will always be his son (regardless of how far I progress down the gender spectrum), and he will always love me.

[joanna marie]

closer to my Mother
she was the only parent in the house
My father left when I was 2
I only saw him off and on until I was 12 and that was my last contact with him

[Miss Maxine]

My mother stopped talking to me, about a year ago, after I told her I'm not a Christian and after she saw that I was "effeminate." She's an extreme and unwavering fundamentalist Christian, with no tolerance for any amount of deviation. I'm hoping that eventually she'll grow exhausted from the relentless stress of that lifestyle and decide to have a relationship with me, again. *crosses fingers*

[Danni Renee]

I am close close to my mother and always have been. I am her favorite and my sisters agree! I was never close to my Dad. I have been trying to be closer but I have and always will feel awkward around him.

Danni

[Gillian Gigs]

I was always closer to my mother. My Dad was a remote and aloof individual. He operated on the idea, that if you want to see or talk to me, then you can find me in my workshop doing carpentry. He worked odd hours for the Railroad, so he was coming or going at unusal hours all of the time. By the time that I was a teenager, He started to show me some of the manly acts, but it was to late. It was more like putting two strangers in the same room. It became worse after my Mum died, everything kind of became unglued. He mellowed out in his late 70's and there was a two year period that things were good, to bad it took so long and lasted so short.

[Katie83]

As far back as i can remember my father used to leave for work in the morning before me and my sister were awake and he wouldn't get home til we'd gone to bed, he was usually tired and miserable at the weekends, my parents divorced when i was 12, So my mother raised us pretty much single handed. All this means i am alot closer to my mother and always have been. I often wonder if the lack of a male role model in my younger years is the reason behind my crossdressing or could just be me. Not that i would want to change anything, i love dressing up!
Katie

[stephanieg]

I am very close to my father,he is 100% supportive and still loves me,does call me by my enfemme name when I am dressed.I was close to my mother,she was murdered when I was 7 years old and it hit me very hard.Her killer is still out there and I want justice including my father.

[Julogden]

I was close to my mother when I was very young, and actually disliked my father. Mom was supportive of me crossdressing occasionally when I was younger (up to maybe 10 or 11), but distanced herself from me as I got older, so as I got older I wasn't close to either parent.

Carol

[sometimes_miss]

I was never close to any of them. Dad worked all the time, mom was self absorbed, sis hated me. Hence, I was susceptible to the friendly child molester down the street.

[Toni Citara]

Such a range of child/parent relationships we have in this thread. I never felt truly close to either of my parents. Over the past couple years I've reflected back on my relationships with people, family and friends alike, and have realized that I was the one that distanced myself from them. People would always call or drop by for a visit, and I was never available for them. I guess I am stingy when it comes to the free time I have available after working all week and when you've only got two days to do everything that needs to be done, it is easier to leave the phone off the hook, (so to speak), and focus on personal needs and goals. After all, what difference does it matter if I actually did go to a bar for a game and a couple of beers? None. Would not impact my well being, (unless I got picked up for DWI/DUI, then it would be a negative impact).

I never even cried at my dad's funeral. Not sure why, but didn't feel "it". In roughly twenty years, I spoke with my parents all of maybe twenty times. Always ended on the same note... I'm a sinner, going to burn in hell, need to get right with Jesus, blah blah blah... If the so-called "Christians" believe that God created humankind in his image and that God makes NO mistakes, then all humans are created in God's image! Straight, Gay, Bisexual, Brown and Peach, male and female and every combination thereof.