I will add something that I don't see mentioned here. It is also very hard to go back to being closeted once you've been out in the real world. I wasn't sure I would ever be able to go out but once I tried it I was hooked. I now go out in the daytime pretty much anywhere I please. But I do realize that at any moment I could run into some one I know. That's why I have "told" most of the important people in my life. Who cares about the rest of them!