I agree with your last comment. Lacey Leigh's books talk about assuming you are always read and just not caring. I think that this is the best attitude to take.
Exactly. And even more than just not caring, it's good to assume that when you get to know people while dressed, many will respond positively as they have with my SO. A CDer doesn't have to be mistaken for a woman in order to be accepted for who she is.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.