I'm somewhat like you Paula where my wife is somewhat ok with it. I attended support meetings back in February, but then that group fell apart. At home I've dressed in front of her and I go to a club once every 8 weeks. She has helped me with my makeup in the past and we go shopping (im in drab though). She doesn't want to go out with me dressed though.....working on that but I don't know if that will ever happen