Hands off buddy.

[Jamsey]

Just an observation, since I just started going out to clubs recently, and this has happened to me 4 or 5 times now, and it is really kind of shocking to me:

I have very nice breast forms. I think they fit well and look really good on me. This club is a LGBT club, and when I meet people and start talking to them, they ask me about my breasts, after, of course, the, are you gay, going to have the operation stuff. Then, all men so far, will ask: are they real? are they fake, can I touch them, and even before I can say no, they have reached for my breasts. The first couple of times it happened, I was so surprised I didn't know what to do. Saturday, I gently slapped his hand away, the female gesture, not a male response, and made a joke about it.
Oh, I just remembered, a few years ago, in NYC, when I dressed the first time going out, for the Halloween parade, afterwards, I was brave enough to go to a gay club in Chelsea, I was wearing a 38B Push up, and the same thing happened. Nice guy, so I thought, bought me a drink, Absolut Martini. And then, are they real, and he reached over and fondled them.
I would never even consider doing something like that, to a male, female, CD or anyone.
Has anyone else had a similar experience? If so, how do you handle it? Or, is this just some kind of wierd coincidence?

[MackenzieMarigold]

This sort of thing legitimately angers me every time I hear about it. Some people have no respect for anyone else these days...

[5150 Girl]

People are courious, it's only natural to be courius of somthing you just encounterd for the first time. I often use it as a teaching experience. However, at a GBLT bar, it's should be a difent story as they ought to know the drill alredy.

[catriona36]

next time, if you have time, if they are not stuck on... pull one out and hand it to them

[Sally24]

I don't know your age but from what my daughter tells me there are many guys in clubs that think it's alright to touch anything they can get away with. There are plenty of clueless, classless people around. Your final response was right on the mark!

[Dixie]

Maybe they're mammas didn't teach them any better, or maybe outta disrespect for they're mammas they've decided to do the opposite either way they are acting like the slime that the are

[noeleena]

Hi,

Here its sexual harassment. = groping ,in most countys it is concidered unacceptable behaviour , touching , unless concenting adults , is allso a case of you dont have that right & can be taken to court, & you can press chages ,

I dont care who the person is im a woman & no i wont let that go.
Ill defend my self & im not a woman to be pushed around, & we dont have to put up with that. the Police would be involved very quick . let it go & they just carry on doing that to others,

...noeleena...

[erickka]

I don't give a hoot whether it is a gg or cd or whomever....I will never touch what doesn't belong to me!

[kimmy p]

That happened to me over the weekend but from a GG. After she gently pulled my gap into my top and looked down my breast/chest area. I admit tat I wasn't tickled about it, and I also don't care for the fondling. But the only time I go out dressed is Halloween and so it is treated by others as a joke. I can't get too upset with it and still keep the fact that I am a full fledged crossdresser quiet. Most of my friends have most likely guessed by now (they are not stupid, and I look too convincing/put too much effort into it) but for my wife's sake I still won't come clean about my clothing preferences. The woman who groped me was a bit intoxicated.... And apparently she had a thing for guys in ladies clothing since she wanted to dance with me the rest of the time I was there. Never had a strange guy check out my chest though.

[jillleanne]

Have I ever mentioned I believe most men are pigs? The only ones that seem to be able to treat people with dignity are transmen.

[CINDYO]

this type of thing does not happen to a GG, the guy would be charged. However under the circumstances he probably thought it would be alright as he knew they were not real breasts and this was not a GG. Would not happen otherwise

[skirtsuit]

One time when I was in school in England, I wore a kilt to school for a bit of a laugh. While I was standing waiting to fill my cup during morning tea, a female staff member walked up and lifted my kilt to see if I had anything on underneath!

If I was a woman wearing a skirt and a male staff member did that he would most certainly been fired.

SS

[Stephenie S]

this type of thing does not happen to a GG, the guy would be charged. However under the circumstances he probably thought it would be alright as he knew they were not real breasts and this was not a GG. Would not happen otherwise

Oh Bull Twaddle. This sort of thing DOES happen to natal women. Happens all the time. You are talking about GUYS here, right? Guys who think it's alright to touch or feel anything they can get away with.

Listen, dear. This sort of thing just comes with the territory. I thought you WANTED to be a girl. Now you are seeing things from the other side of the fence. Being a woman is not all pretty clothes and compliments. It's also having to put up with men and their male privilage thoughts that they can do whatever they want whenever they want.

S

[Michelle.M]

Now you are seeing things from the other side of the fence. Being a woman is not all pretty clothes and compliments. It's also having to put up with men and their male privilage thoughts that they can do whatever they want whenever they want.

S

If that's the case, then I believe it's appropriate to handle it like women used to do in my day. He gets a slap across the cheek, and a warning that next time he gets a visit from my father / brother / boyfriend, etc.

[kellycan27]

Oh Bull Twaddle. This sort of thing DOES happen to natal women. Happens all the time. You are talking about GUYS here, right? Guys who think it's alraight to touch or feel anything they can get away with.

Listen, dear. This sort of thing just comes with the territory. I thought you WANTED to be a girl. Now you are seeing things from the other side of the fence. Being a woman is not all pretty clothes and compliments. It's also having to put up with men and their male privilage thoughts that they can do whatever they want whenever they want.

S

You're absolutely correct! Things like this happen too gg's all the time. It's also happened to me while out clubbing. I have been groped, fondled, pinched, had my butt grabbed, been pinned up against a wall , and been rubbed up against. These really not much you can do.... If you hit them, there's always the chance that they will hit you back, or get your self arrested. If you call the cops... it's your word against his unless you have a witness. No witness, no case. The bouncers may warn them, but here again.. it's your word against his. Tell the b/f? I guess you could if you wanted to take the chance the he could get arrested for assault or possibly get himself injured. as maddening as it may be just about the only thing you can do it just suck it up and move on. Welcome to womanhood!

Kel

[ilovepanties]

I would never even think of touching someone's breasts, unless they asked me to. I dont care if they are on a gg or cd, it is inappropriate behavior. Maybe they have not been taught to know better...

[Vickie_CDTV]

Maybe it was the era I grew up in (with stranger danger, AIDS, date rape, sexual harassment etc. in the headlines), but they were really drilling in the notion of "keep your hands to yourself" when I was in school, and something they always told us what that you never touch someone you don't know personally anywhere without their permission.

I always thought it was sensible advice, I guess times really have really changed...

[Stephenie S]

No dear. Times have not changed. You are living in a dream world.

[Stephenie S]

If that's the case, then I believe it's appropriate to handle it like women used to do in my day. He gets a slap across the cheek, and a warning that next time he gets a visit from my father / brother / boyfriend, etc.

This always happens in the movies. Rarely in real life.

S

[StarrOfDelite]

I've been groped by the curious in alternate clubs where gender women are basically non-existent, and also by drunk guys in dark, straight bars who didn't even suspect I was in drag. It is always offensive to some degree, but I have to admit that some of the come-on lines that are used to excuse it are genuinely humorous. Butt fondling, accompanied by an insincere 'excuse me' as if it was accidental, is also a threat to one's sense of well-being.

[Paulette]

As Kelly said welcome to womanhood, wearing womens clothes and presenting a female you are subject to all of the good things (doors opened, served first) and all of the bad things (long lines in the restroom, cold legs, sore feet, cold shoulders, broken nails, groping by male animals (not to be confused with gentlemen) and last but not least runs in you nylons.

[kellycan27]

As Kelly said welcome to womanhood, wearing womens clothes and presenting a female you are subject to all of the good things (doors opened, served first) and all of the bad things (long lines in the restroom, cold legs, sore feet, cold shoulders, broken nails, groping by male animals (not to be confused with gentlemen) and last but not least runs in you nylons.

Yup and even so... I am stickin til the end

kel

[pinklilly211]

Hi All, I did have this happen to me also. I was all Dolled up for holloween three years ago. I was using the waterballoon boob thing. When ever my SO and I would get up and dance, all the GG's would come over to us and ask if they could feel them becouse they moved so nice when I danced!
Huggs Lilly

[sissystephanie]

It did happen to me one time several years ago. I was out enfemme with my wife and we went to a club. A man started talking to me, and then started to fondle my breasts. When he came to, he did apologize!! Yes, I did knock him out!! I don't touch other people unless they want me to, and I don't expect to be touched unless I ask for it! BTW, my breasts are natural 40 B's, so there aren't any forms in my bra!!

[michelleky53]

I met a friend of a transgender person in Louisville, she had really nice breasts. She liked to fondle mine and let me fondle hers. No harm, no foul.