“Know thyself.” - Socrates
"'Know Thyself' was written over the portal of the antique world. Over the portal of the new world, 'Be Thyself' shall be written." - Oscar Wilde
Do you really know yourself? If you do, are you being yourself?
It is extremely easy to answer both of these questions in the affirmative. It is also easy to believe in the answers you offer to yourself.
At least it was easy for me. Heck, my entire adult life I thought I was merely a happy-go-lucky crossdresser that needed nothing further in life. I thought I was good with my blessed sanctuary that is my closet, and my wife’s knowledge and acceptance of me. I thought that this was all I needed to occupy myself within a safe, small, comfortable, and private femme world I had carefully molded over a span of many years.
And yet, I was completely wrong. Over the past several months, I have recognized that I need soooo much more than what I previously allowed myself in life. As a result, I have begun taking steps to achieve my new goals, and to identify and meet my needs and aspirations.
“Self-knowledge is the beginning of self-improvement.” - Baltasar Gracián
As some of you know, I have been desperate to discover who and what I am. I have really been hard on myself, and beat myself up over and over again for quite some time now. I have questioned this, that, and the other thing. I have been relentless of late in my quest for the truth.
Ironically enough, the truth was just sitting there all this time, right in front of me, simply waiting for me to acknowledge its presence, and accept it for what it was. Grasping that truth, making it mine, and accepting it, however, has been one of the most difficult, challenging, and necessary exercises I have ever performed.
In so doing, though, and acknowledging my truths for what they are, I have discovered that the entirety of my adult life has been lived in denial, fear, repression, hiding, and under false pretenses. I meant well, I suppose. I simply wanted to fit in, be “normal” (whatever that is), and not stir up any controversy.
So what better way to do this than to build up and fortify a massive psychological prison, place certain truths within, slam the gate shut, lock the door, and throw away the key, huh? Regretfully, the strategy worked well for two decades. But no more . . . .
For the first real time in my life, I now know myself. I really know myself, and I am over the hump. That is not to say that the prospect of the future does not scare the hell out of me – it does! But it also excites me to no end. I fully recognize that I have much work to do in achieving, establishing, and maintaining a workable balance, but the thing is - I know myself! And in so knowing myself, I feel relief. Simple, blessed, merciful relief.
Of course, as I said, this is just only the beginning of my new path and journey. But unlike previous years, where I was on cruise control, I honestly believe that self-improvement, maturation, and evolution are around the corner, waiting for me to come around the bend.
So perhaps there is something to knowing and being thyself, after all. What do you think? Do you know yourself? Are you being yourself? Or are you on your own path of self-discovery, just plodding along, and attempting to figure yourself out? Have you been in denial as to who and what you are? Or have you got it all figured out?
“What a wonderful day we've had. You have learned something, and I have learned something. Too bad we didn't learn it sooner. We could have gone to the movies instead.” - Balki Bartokomous (Perfect Strangers)
D’OH!!!!