In the short time I've been here I've seen many posts where CDers take too long to tell their SO's about their dressing. Most times it causes huge problems. Getting married won't cure it, and either will denying who you are.
I've also seen married CDers having limits put on them, and their SO's struggling with their CDing, or not allowing it. Or SO's changing their minds at some point.
The only thing that makes sense is to always tell your SO before things get too serious or stay single. I think somebody needs to make a handbook for us.