I'm sorry she did that to you hun.
I think she was just trying to say the most shocking thing just to get to you. I don't agree with it and she seriously crossed the line. It did come across to me that maybe she was trying to push you coming out to her by teasing. She sounds like she wants to know what's going on with you and knows that you won't tell. So my theory is that she is trying to get it out of you by provoking you. I also think that jealousy was a factor because she is used to being the one doted on by your parents several for 51 weeks out of the year, and wants some of the attention that you are getting from your parents when you are there. I loved how you kept your cool and ignored her for the most part. If it happened to me, I would have flatly asked her in a calm, but assertive manner why she said those things. When people are mean, I put the spotlight on their cruelty while maintaining my cool as a means to further highlight the fact that they are acting up. Doesn't always work, but it usually does.
In your case, pushing the issue further would have called more attention to yourself, and I'm sure that is the last thing you want. But I know that we're all here for you. It's because of people's attitudes towards transgenders that I hardly dress up at all and am far too scared to be seen out in public en femme. I'm sorry dear......
