Hi Jess,
Like you I am a member of a support group (River City Gems in my case) and their events are a mix of both public and private events. I also go out with my wife just to do things together. I go to pretty much most places "Joe Public" goes. Things like movies, bars, clubs, restaurants, a play at a theater, museums, shopping at the mall, grocery shopping, cycling, Ive even been bowling en femme. I've never been to a ball game en femme but that's because I don't like sports rather than anything else.
Once the "going out genie" is out of the bottle there's no way she'll ever go back in