When I first joined this forum, I wrote about the virtues of my closet regularly. My blessed sanctuary that is my closet. I was a closet fanatic, and much to my chagrin and surprise, even took some serious heat for it from certain members here.
Since that time, I have changed much. I have come out to three friends, a sister, my psychologist, my nail tech, and all of the associates at my local MAC retailer. I have shopped for my own clothes in brick and mortar stores, and even tried clothes on in the dressing room. I now shave my legs during shorts weather, my arms are always hairless, I have worn open toed sandals with my toe nails painted, and I have thinned out my eyebrows somewhat. And soon, I shall begin attending TG support group meetings dressed en femme, and going out to TG socials.
Despite all of the personal changes, however, I must maintain some sense of caution and restraint. The fact of the matter is that society is not ready for us. My community is not ready for me. Society can be harsh, unforgiving, and judgmental. I cannot afford to risk all that I have worked for over the years to go by the wayside simply because of my desire and need to present as, or become a woman.
In the past, this was not a difficult issue. Of course, I was in deep denial, and had unwittingly and unknowingly suppressed for many, many years my true nature. As a result, it is difficult to reconcile who I want to be, how I need to be, with what must be. Ideally, I would choose to maintain the middle road, and live on both sides of the fence. I recognize that for me, this may be easier said than done, but it has to be my reality.
Regardless of my evolution, maturation, and sense of self, I still believe in the power and beauty of the closet. Whether it is the right place for me, and I have serious, stomach-churning doubts, that remains to be seen. But for many, remembering back on my days as a diehard closet dweller, much magic is to be found within the closet.
For those that remain within, how do you define your closet?