Have you told your SO about you joining crossdressers.com?

[SamGreen]

I did a quick search and I couldn't find this posted.

Have you told your SO about joining this site and how were the reactions? Were you able to get her(or he) to join as well for the support/conversations of the other spouses?

As I've just joined (Hi everyone) and I try and be open and communicate with my Wife I'm thinking about letting her know. Of course I'll have to watch how I let her know ... No, I'm not leaving her, No I don't want to transition, NO I'm not looking for another relationship. I love her and I'm trying to understand myself.

Thanks y'all,
Sam.

[ArleneRaquel]

My current SO, yes. he didn't care.

[AllieSF]

Hello Sam and welcome to the Forum. There was a post last year about whether it was advisable to invite the SO top this site. Many interesting replies. I personally do not have a current SO to care nor worry about. That being said, it would have to depend on how "rational" and how much common sense my SO has. That means, if she was cool and sensible, she would have no problem reading through the fantasies written about here and dwell on the more serious stuff and would be just fine. However, if she was not that way, I probably would not introduce her to this site.

[WsprsOnTheWind]

Sam, I would think telling her about this site would depend on her level of comfort with you being a CD. Have you been married a long time? Did she just find out? If so how is she dealing with it? If she's not open to the subject it might be best to wait.

My husband is the one who introduced me to this site. I have found most here to be very helpful and supportive.

[SamGreen]

She knew of my 'habit' before we got married. I had to build a foundation for our relationship with honesty. We've been married a decade now (WOW) and still isn't comfortable with it.

I guess I've just answered my own question.

[Ayame]

It would be a crime not to let the closest person to me, know me. So of course she knows. ^_^

[Jenniferathome]

Yes,I told my wife about this site. After coming out to her about my crossdressing, I vowed to never lie or withold information about anythng, ever again my life is an open book to her I have invited her to join but she is not really interested. She understands why I am here and how it has helped me.

[Marleena]

Mine knows too Sam. Full disclosure with her. She is not compelled to join although we do talk about some of the topics here. She realizes I need the friendship of others like me.

[WsprsOnTheWind]

She knew of my 'habit' before we got married. I had to build a foundation for our relationship with honesty. We've been married a decade now (WOW) and still isn't comfortable with it.

I guess I've just answered my own question.

Interesting that you used the word "habit". Is that really how you see it or just the word you selected? According to what I've read on this site and have seen personally it's part of who the CD is.

[DanaR]

My wife knows, but isn't interested in joining herself. I do share stuff that is on here with her though.

[t-girlxsophie]

Told her I had joined and asked if she wanted to join too,she did but I believe she hasn't made any posts.She has a glance over my shoulder now and again to read something,and I sometimes will tell her of a certain post that I may think she would be Interested in.she also knows my log in details as I have nothing to hide.

Sophie

[Maggey]

I told my SO about my crossdressing about 3 weeks ago. i also told her about this forum but she joined a Tri Ess site where there was support of the SO's of crossdressers. She has found great support there. She told me to stay away from that site which I will honour. But if she wanted to join this site I certainly would not object.

[velvet]

i have not told her about the forum, i am being slow in revealing all, when i told her about my cd,ing her reply was,,best we go shopping then,, so all is good

[SamGreen]

Maggie, can I ask how your wife found the Tri Ess group? Maybe it's something that my wife would find helpful as well.

[Tuesday Theriot]

While my wife has seen me browsing this site, she's not really interested, though. She has never been interested in these types of forums. She's more the Facebook type. We are opposites in many ways. However, I am impressed at how many folks here are in a honest relationship.

[Lux]

My SO encouraged me to join and joined herself. While she doesn't always visit the site she is usually at my side when I log in via laptop and then we talk about interesting threads as they come up.

I couldn't ask for more

[Eryn]

I read this site for a while before I joined. My wife and I both decided that it would be a good idea to join and participate.

[Babeba]

Crystal told me about this site a few months after we started dating, she got a lot of inspiration to tell me about her dressing because of the people on here. I'm so glad she did! I like the people on here, and I can skip the occasional panty thread if it means that I have such a good community of people around to talk to. I can't stress enough how nice it is to have others 'in the know' that I can talk to, and talk things over in privacy (in the FAB section for us GG SOs, there's also the GM section as a private place for you ladies!)

[retrofitme]

My SO and I joined at the same time - the site has been helpful to both of us.

[Renee W]

I told her after I had been a member for about a month. I wanted to be comfortable with the content that appears here before I told her. It's hard enough getting an SO to accept or support your crossdressing, so I didn't want her to think I was joining a site for perverts and such. I told her she should join, but to date she hasn't.

[Erica Thorn]

yup, I was a member a week after we started discussing my CD'ing "for real" and after that I suggested that she would become a member to and she's been liking it!
Now her university degree is taking a bit to much time so she havnt been online for a while tough

[Cheryl T]

Absolutely, and she is a member here also.

[suchacutie]

I joined within 48 hours of the first time Tina ever appeared, and asked my wife if she wanted to join. We often discuss issues that arise on this forum.

[DeniseNJ]

I think my wife has seen this site left on on the computer by mistake. If she knew how much I visit and post in here I think it would upset her. even tho my wife know about Denise she hates the fact that her man dresses like a woman at times. As a matter of fact I visit this site more than I do the other forums associated with cars and stuff. I guess I like coming here cause in here I am Denise, my wife wouldn't approve of a bunch of guys talking and acting like girls, to her it's weird!!

[Barbara Ella]

My wife knows, and we have discussed certain topics that have been brought up here. I got her to join, and she made maybe one or two posts. She is not comfortable on the computer, so these forums are new. She keeps saying she really needs and wants someone to talk to, but I cant get her to even log into the e mail account I set up for her. I know she would benefit greatly if she would chat with the wonderful GG here, as well as see the concerns other CD ers are experiencing as a comparison to what i am going through. In time she might become more active, but I cannot force her, just be available.

Let her know but do not force her

Babaes