I have been to two different therapists, and while neither asked me to come en femme, both were OK if that is what I choose.
Erina, the one thing that makes me suggest a new therapist is that you don't feel right telling him about something. If you find the right person, you shouldn't have a problem discussing something that is obviously important to you, whether or not it is your primary issue for seeing him. If you still don't feel right talking about this, or any subject, then you need to change, because you are not making any progress if you can't talk about it. Good Luck........Stephanie