Originally Posted by
Sarasometimes
I'm sort of in the same place. years ago in my computer stupidity phase she found the history of this forum. She asked me why "I said i 'm interested in it." Reply "Well it is late, I'm going to bed." I had a sleepless night (as I should have) and in the morning there was no mention of this. he dropped it. My thoughts were that if she wants to involve herself she would ask. I didn't think my desire to talk about it trumped her choice to let it drop. We live happily under the don't ask don't tell concept. would i like you love to have her participate but that would be asking more of her than I'm willing to do. if you push it she may say, "Stop or I will leave." if you want her to be a part of it, isn't that the same as if she asked you to stop??? Consider the risks of pushing her into an uncomfortable position, she may leave. If that option is better than what you have now, you decide. Do remember it is tough to put a lid back on a can of worms you opened.
You mention that she is conservative so how could you think it would be easy for her to accept this. She has probably done a heck of a lot of tongue bitting over 9 years. Let sleeping dogs lie unless you are willing to accept her answer to your crossdressing. Why does she have to be accepting and not just have you stop. Another option is for you to see a counseler who knows these issues very well.
Good luck!