In my experience it's better to be the single TG\CD then the single male. The males tend to be territorial so it eases tension if you appear less of a threat, even better if you can pull off "eye candy." As far as what to wear, my advice is something that you feel confident in. Also, I always went in a group.
"Salene"
I've been a member of several swingers clubs over the years. They do like it when the women play together but its a "no-no" for men to play together. I had never met any cds at any of the parties I attended. I remember a private club (The JetSet Club) in Houston in the late 70's that aloud stag men only at the bar and could only go to the dance floor or sit at a table if a couple invited him to join them. And up here in MN I joined a club where there was swinging on site. Again, no man to man playtime. I am not sure how the members would have reacted if I showed up dressed. Have fun when you go.
Diane Elizabeth
Well I'm bummed! I've never seen any CD's at any of the swingers club the wife and I attend.
Tracey