And not the good kind that are marked 75% Off either.
No I mean the ones we all pidgeon hole ourselves with.
I was talking with some friends on the chat tonight when the subject of gender labels came up becuase the site has undergone a bit of an overhaul and has required all users to re-enter their gender;
-Male
-Female
-Transexual
-Transvestite
-Crossdresser
and then others like
-Couple
-I'll tell you later.
Ive entered mine as CD, just as it was pre-overhaul.
But a friend of mine has changed hers from CrossDresser to transvestite, when she said this I asked her why? Had she increased her regularity of dressing? Prolonged the periods for which she is dressed? Had she decided she's now living and presenting as a girl but electing not to go for surgery or hormones?
Nope.
Her response came as a shock. (This is not a direct quote, more of an aproximation)
CDs in this country (UK), and I dont know about overseas tend to be frowned upon purely for going by the title of Crossdresser. It conjures up images of hairy panty wearers who's robbed some knickers from somewhere for a cheap thrill. Or of a guy who just bought a load of clothes but hasnt really tried to look femme.
Ive tried my hardest to get my look right, drop weight, shave well and learn makeup, but people see crossdressers as the fat guy in an ill fitting dress.
Thats no me, Ive worked at it and I feel that if people see the title of Cross Dresser, they assume the worst.
Now, Im (Its me again, Smile) putting this up for debate, whether youre a UK lass or otherwise (please state in your reply) what do you think?
Do you think that 'Cross Dresser' carries a weight of seedy tone or gives you a lower impression of a person than someone who reffers to themselves as 'Transvestite' who has taken time to learn skills and craft an evolved feminine illusion beyond clothes and a wig?
No offence meant, just wanted your thoughts.