Use the same rules I follow when travelling alone in foreign countries.
Day light is safe light.
Darkness is not my friend.
If you have to be out after dark, familiarize yourself with the surroundings ahead of time. How do I get in and how do I get out.
Do not hang out with stupid.
Stay out of bars. 99% of the stories of misfortune begin with the line, "We were at this bar and.........."
Thanks Girls, It seems that the air of fear that sometimes overwhelms this forums is far less than I feared? Keep the stories coming!
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The ignorant people aren't as prevalent as your wife might thinkOriginally Posted by Jenna J
I am keeping my wife comfortable right now, and she is "afraid for me" if something happens. I so not share all the fears, because right now I would never be in a position to be confronted. For the present, I will abide her needs. She is going out of town with daughter this Saturday for an overnight, I may have to do some driving Saturday night, for the first time.
Babes
He (she) who would learn to fly one day must first learn to stand and walk and run and climb and dance.
- Friedrich Nietzche -
I may never get to fly like the other girls, but I do so want to dance, so I continue to climb.
Well, there's danger, and then there's danger. One kind is fun, the other is so not.
Not sure if this is exactly what you mean but there are clear dangers regarding peoples careers and their relationships with friends and family. As has happened recently to one of the members here there is a real risk of such thing as divorce, lack of promotions and excommunication from friends and/or family. As to the risks of getting attacked and beaten, I do not feel those would be very large at all. Society is far more controlled in how they act physically to those that they see as different. The news can make it seem dangerous out there but the sensationalize many things due to the fact that they are fighting each other for ratings and "hey everybody, things are going pretty well lately" does not make a good story.
My wife said the same thing when we started this journey 7 years ago. Part of our agreement was that she would always go with me when I went out. When I asked if it was because she didn't trust me she replied, "No, I just want to be there is something happens. At least I can call 9 1 1 "....
Gotta love the way she thinks...
Only problem was that she didn't have a cell phone and mine would be in my purse...LOL.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
been out to friendly clubs dancing etc. many times, casino, and i go out everywhere slightly fem... never had any fear or negative issues. i believe the fear we are discussing is more of the internal type.but one must travel at their own speed.........right kate? ummmmm
I have gone out numerous times en fem. I never had a bad experience. If you talk of danger. Just getting behind the wheel of your car is dangerous. Drab or drag. But if I die in an accident while in drag. Cool, at least I can say I died in a dress. Daviolin
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A CD AND HIS WARDROBE, ITS A BEAUTIFUL THING.
I go out all of the time dressed and the only time I have felt fear was when I was alone walking down a street where if I was a GG I would have been with a friend. When you get out you notice that there are places a lone woman is seen and then there are times and places where the woman travel in pairs. Now being in a pair does provide safety but it also provides a lot more fun. When you are out with a girl friend (friend as in friend, not romantic friend) you can watch out for one another and you have someone two laugh with. One of the last times I was out my friend actually saved me from getting hit by a car who did not want to stop for mere mortals walking across the street. I have never been afraid while with a friend no matter where we are at. I have been to some real redneck places and still no problems as people expect to see two women together and if there happens to three or four girls hanging out it is even better. I do try to avoid being with more than a couple of CD's at a time though.
Just and older girl trying to experience all that life can bring.
"Life is not a dress rehearsal"
For SOME, YES! For me? NO! Why? Because I sometimes wear a mask out. THAT seems to intimidate most folks!
If it doesn't work, I can always take the mask OFF! Then, they're LAFFING SO HARD, I can walk safely away. Even in 5" heels!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Been out dressed only once for a presentation at school for one of my classes. The whole time, I kept wishing for an Eskrima stick or a gun or some sort of weapon.
But my fears aren't from simple CD'ing. CD'ing does make it worse though...
I've been out to bars, nightclubs, shopping malls, walmart and other places--times way too numerous to count---sometimes "passed" sometimes didn't--and it doesn't matter to me--each time I enjoyed myself--only had someone give me a hard time once--so it worked for me.
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The only dangerous thing I have notice is I want to do it more often, not out to anybody but I'm sure if I go out enough I will out myself to some people I know. That is the problem with living on the main road everybody has to go past my home and I am sure someone will see a woman getting into or out of my vehicle at one time or another.
When I first came out to family, friends and neighbors 3 years ago I was scared as hell them seeing me dressed. My next door neighbor at the apartment complex was my savior to this as she seen me dressed and would critique my outfits and put me at ease. I started doing my laundry all dressed up and soon all 7 neighbors had seen me and didn't care in the least that I was dressed up.
Been out just once, for a drive & a walk in the dark, the hardest part was just getting through the door. I am scared, but I know I'll do it again & hopefully get a bit braver
I used to be able to get out about once or twice per week. I always had a hard time figuring out just where to go. The list is: grocery stores, shopping malls, clothing stores, the post office, the bank, any respectable office building that did not have invasive security, public libraries, large apartment complexes, gas stations, fast food restaurants, and walks around the neighborhood.
Linda, that's my list too. I'm not out much, but impersonating a girl doing normal daily activities is most of the fun for me, and none of that is scary..though it was at first! I'd have no interest in clubs, bars, etc. but if I did I could imagine that safety might be more of an issue depending on the circumstances.
I used to go out once a month to a local munch for those into BDSM. A very accepting group of people I might add. I used to go with a male friend that knew about my dressing and did not care one way or the other. Even my now ex-wife went with me a few times. I also had been out to a few clubs that were known to be places TG's were very accepting and gathered there. Things changed since I had a nephew that was killed in the line of duty with the local police force. This was about 7 years ago. It made me worry what would happen if I was stopped for a minor traffic offense or blown taillight and his last name being the same as mine and well known to all local law enforcement agency's. That would cause humiliation not only to me, but to my nephew's parents, my brother. So now I no longer go out dressed locally. Now, if I had a local friend that would drive, I'd go since my ID would not be needed in most stops by the police. Other ten a trip down the driveway dressed to either take out the garbage or retrieve mail in the dark of night, I just have not been out in several years.
Each time, in the dead of night. Took a ride twice, took the garbage out once, went to the car to get something once. I do however sometimes do my laundry where my landlord 'might' catch me, but I can hear if anyone's coming quite easily and have a quick escape route.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Trying to get myself out of hotel room today. May take the route someone else did by keeping wigs etc in car. Plus its a biz conference, feel your pain!
I'm posting a link here about the dangers of being a TG girl out and about. It is written by the Vancouver Police Department. It is NOT to scare anybody.
http://www.transgenderlondon.com/Saf...TG%20Adult.htm
Now you will notice much of this also applies to GG's.
In the mid 60s I was talking to a cop that patroled in my area. Told him I had seen a guy dressed as a woman walking in the area. He demanded to know when and where. As soon as I said he took off in his squad car to capture that viliian. I did move soon after.
Actually I really haven't had many bad experiences. A couple of times people have tried to embarass me, but who cares. In my younger years I could pass, maybe because CDing wasn't known about. Today age has caught up and no one wants to look at me.
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