My wonderful wife offered just last week. I had asked her if it was ok with her for me to be dressed on a weekend day last week. She said, of course. But one thing led to another and time ran out. We were headed to Hawaii this week and she makes the suggestion that I bring "my things" with me. I was actually a bit reticent as I didn't want to impact her vacation in any way, but she reiterated the idea and asked what I was bringing so I did. I never qsked or brought it up, i promise. I checked and doublechcked that it was still ok with her. Moments ago, we unpacked together, her sun dresses and skirts on one side of the closet, my two skirts, dress and tops on the other. She even suggested that I could borrow a dress she bought for this trip! Her only request is that I not dress every day. No problem. So here I sit in paradise in love with my wife for a million reasons and her attitude about my crossdressing is just one.
So, yes, I am very fortunate, but the moral of this story is that it can work. This didn't happen over night. We talk often and I always inform and respect her wishes. As a result, she offers me more space, if I want to take it. Despite some of the negative reactions reported on this forum, TALK to your SO. Make no demands. Move at her pace and try to inform not preach. It's a journey for us all. There was a time just last year where I was actually pushing her away and all because I couldn't talk about my crossdressing. Once I opened up, it's a great day, every day. If ylou have a solid foundation, you can get through this. If not, address the foundation first, then talk.
Best of luck to all