Today has been a pretty wild ride!
I've come out to quite a few friends because being out-and-about and active in social circles means they are likely to run into me and I don't want them surprised.
A few months ago I came out to my male-self's best friend and his wife. I really feared the worst because, frankly, he is a bit of a misogynist and I didn't think he'd take all that well to finding out that his best friend was kinda girly.
As it turned out, when I finished telling him about my girlself and the fact that I was very out-and-about, he simply said, "But we're still friends, right?"
He also said that he kinda hoped he never met me en femme. A couple of weeks ago there was a costume party and I made sure to tell him I would be there. Since he had planned to go to another event that evening I wasn't expecting it when he and his wife ended up coming to the party.
I was my girlself but, believe it or not, I had decided to wear a costume as a guy! So I was a woman costumed as a man. By the time the evening was finished, he and his wife, his sister, and his niece and my spouse and I all ended up going out for pizza. It got really funny because I ended up just being one of the girls, we were girl talking and giggling, and the poor guy ended up kind of alone at the end of the table.
Cut to today. His wife expressed an interest in going with my spouse and I to an ethnic specialty market that we go to a few miles away. She'd never been, and we were going there today so we invited her. We also told her that it is one of the places I only go to en femme. She accepted our invitation and said that my being myself was no problem.
He had to go off on a week long business trip this morning. His wife took him to the airport bus. Afterwards she came over to our house.
We were all dressed in "shopping casual," except that all of us were wearing long sleeves because the ethnic market is a very modest environment. I wore grey pants, closed toe shoes with 3" (7.6 cm) heels, a grey pinstripe blouse, and a black jacket.
As she walked into the house we hugged and exchanged hellos, after which she did the same with my spouse. She was just totally accepting.
We headed out to the market and spent about an hour and a half shopping. Since we'd picked up a number of perishables, we returned to our house where we put our perishable stuff away and she stored hers in our refrigerator.
Then we all decided to go off to lunch. We selected one of her favorite resturants, a vegitarian place, that she never gets to go to when her husband is home because he's a definite meat-and-potatoes kinda guy. We just had a delightful "three girls talk over lunch" kind of time.
We returned to our place in the early afternoon, she took her perishables and headed out for her other errands. I think we're all looking forward to getting together again soon!
After she left my spouse and I headed off in different directions. My job was to get an oil change for one of our cars. Again, it is a place where I am only known en femme, so a quick lipstick refresh and a change of shoes to open toe wedge sandals with 3" (7.6 cm) heels.
The oil change was quick, although I'm not sure I wasn't slightly overcharged a bit. They also changed the air cleaner filter which really did need changing, and gave me a printout of additional items they suggested for attention. The service guy was very nice and said I really should get a couple of things on the printout taken care of, even if I didn't have them do the work.
I paid with my femme credit card and returned home, arriving slightly after my spouse.
It was only about 3:15 or so in the afternoon, so we decided to head out to a couple of more markets that would have some other items we were looking for.
As we headed out, I received a text from a female friend of our son, asking if she'd left her sunglasses in our car. She had, and we arranged to meet at the market since it is between her office and her home and she was getting off work.
My son had told her about my being transgender, but this was the first time she was about to meet "me." In my text I told her to expect me and, as I figured, she was a bit excited to finally see me.
She arrived at the market, found my spouse and I, said hello and immediately admired my shoes. We were thinking of inviting her to dinner with us, but as it turned out, she had a leak at her apartment and had to rush off to take care of it.
My spouse and I finished shopping and then went to another market to see if they had some things that were still on our list. I had a couple of conversations with the assistant manager as he helped me find a couple of items.
From there it was off to the art supply store to pick up a couple of things including some origami paper that I wanted to get.
By then we decided we were both too tired to make dinner so we went to a local Mexican place, had a nice dinner and a chat about business in today's economy with the woman who owns the place.
And we still got home in time for me to tell you all about it!
Hugs,
Persephone.