Okay, reality is beginning to sink in. I may be a bit hard of hearing, but if I am told enough times, I actually begin to hear it. Next talk will include an apology from me. Thanks for all your messages, even the not so nice ones.

Quote Originally Posted by Kaitlyn Michele View Post
In fact, if you could just support him or her, no matter what, it would be in your best interest.
you'd likely get a better outcome..even a great outcome.... maybe with your support she will be more confident in her thinking...
[slapping forehead] Damn, why didn't this occur to me? We have had some great, free ranging discussions in the past. I love how her brain works, and she knows it. It is the reason I have been so mystified at her unwillingness to admit any doubts or issues, to us or a therapist. That is just not the person I know.

But she can't let her guard down, can't trust us to work through it with her. We have poisoned the environment, turning it into a negotiation rather than a discussion. Thank you for the epiphany.

Liz