Okay, reality is beginning to sink in. I may be a bit hard of hearing, but if I am told enough times, I actually begin to hear it. Next talk will include an apology from me. Thanks for all your messages, even the not so nice ones.
[slapping forehead] Damn, why didn't this occur to me? We have had some great, free ranging discussions in the past. I love how her brain works, and she knows it. It is the reason I have been so mystified at her unwillingness to admit any doubts or issues, to us or a therapist. That is just not the person I know.
But she can't let her guard down, can't trust us to work through it with her. We have poisoned the environment, turning it into a negotiation rather than a discussion. Thank you for the epiphany.
Liz