Jess, I have absolutely no problem with your question or this thread- you asked for answers, we gave them, everyone commented on it, and you accepted the answers while debating a few points, all respectfully IMO. These are the threads that make the board an interesting place, and I appreciate your efforts. You could not be more right about the privacy thing- I am very reluctant to share a lot in "real life," about anything. Even online I try to keep a lot of things private (although baring my soul here is easier than anywhere else. )