I'm gonna slim this one down since some of it too convoluted personally. Essentially, I, as an SO of a CDer, am currently being stalked on and off by my ex's new partner for reasons I cannot explain. Either way the stalking itself is intense and volatile. She wants to destroy me and everything I hold dear.
Since she has managed to find me in every way shape and form and I cannot seem to get away from her I have started to worry that she may discover my partner's hobby. Now, I love my partner but I would NEVER want his lifestyle to ever be a weapon against me but I know if she stumbles upon it she'd use it like a machine gun, tell my ex and let the entire world know because she needs the validation that her relationship is perfect and mine isn't. I also know that with the progress made that result would destroy him because he'd feel like he's the gun.
To clarify, I feel my relationship is perfect and I wouldn't change it (and I certainly wouldn't go back). Its the spite that I cannot stand and my biggest fear is this, something so intimate from one so nurturing being used so maliciously.
Has anyone else had an ex find out or had it used in such a manor? How would we cope?