i wish i had someone to dress with.i feel lonely

[Chazity]

3 people know about chazity. My sister-in-law, one of my wifes friends ,and my wife.I only have them to talk to,or compare fashion,but they are sometimes to busy and they are women, so there are things i cant talk about cause they dont understand . I so want to find a friend that i can go out with that doesnt want to make it a sexual thing just as friends ...... there are alot of fetish crossdressers ,im not saying i wouldnt be there friends and hang out with them ,im just not into that..........i just feel lonely in my small town ..

[Cynthia Anne]

Chazity, I wish I could help you but I'm in the same boat! But I have no one to talk to! Female nor freind! But I do get out by myself quite often! Best wishes to you! Hugs!

[Jacqueline Winona]

For what it's worth, you're better off than a lot of members here. My wife knows that I like to dress but doesn't like it, doesn't want to see it. Beyond her, and our local support group, I'm pretty much on my own as well. Post a little more about where you live, if you're comfortable with it, and check out the forum on meeting people.

[Joanna Maguire]

I know how you feel I was so lonely and blue when I was in the closet for years. My wife found out and she began gradually to understand why I was a CD.Being a Cd can and is exciting But like everyone life has many ups and downs There are clubs for CDs in most large cities. Eg. here in Australia there is "The Seahorse Club" Look it up on the net? Being a CD is more complicated and involves much more than just sex. Gender confusion ,apprehension and so many fears make life for a CD so scarey.
I live in a village population 200. So absolutely every one knows I am a CD or such ?? What is he?She a Tranny or a TS ?? I now live full time as as Cd For 20 years I was in the closet My wife found out over 30 years ago. She was at first someone else would found out. Now 15yrs into retirement and I live full time as a woman ?CD?TS
The Seahorse Club opened the gate to my wifes understanding Fashion- I went to TAFE college here in Australia to learn sewing dressmaking and fashion design. I was the only "boy" in the class of 20 women. They treat me as one of them both in class and outside college excursions to cafes restruants and Fashion stores Doing the sewing course made it much easy to make my clothing fit
There are still problems ups and downs in my life. Strangely or maybe not ? it involves depression over that I am not a real woman Even having the big op would not make me a female. I have been impotent for years now because of hormonal problems and Diabetes So being what I am and how I am causes depression despite my living and dressing as a woman full time Humans are very sexual beings Far more than most animals Sex in a long gone memory for me ( a fond one though)
ALL of my friends are women or other CDS. Other than gays men seldom speak to me ! But because of what I am and my feminine interests I have little to tqalk to men about football etc Can be depressing too But I now hate men but love women and feminine things all the time. Small town How far from a city are you? Could you occasionally visit a CD club in that city ? Stay in a motel TAKE your wife for company when you visit the Club. That will open other doors for you. Some good some bad. If you go out in public in the city Who would recognise you dressed as a woman? Possibly even now others in the town where you live already know you are a CD ? I lived in a small town before I retired to where I now live> Lots there knew I was a CD after I was recognised several times in the streets of other nearby towns. But know one said much to me upfront Who knows what they said behind my back ?? I did not worry and do not care!
Fetish Crossdressers ? They definitely do not come out in the open and try to look and act like a woman either at home or in public There are sites on the net-Womens Fashion Magazines where they have chat sessions or forums that ladies like us can discuss fashion etc No porn or fetishes on those sites. After all we are "Ladies" sex and fetishes are only part of our hidden sex life? YES! Life is not easy. But think of the pleasures of being A CD thats the reasonwe become CDs
Send me a private message If it might help o be more open privately. Sometimes its better to talk to a stranger ??? But do be carefull . A woman alone needs security All women cannot just go out alone at night . Day time is best if u are alone. For a Cd alone in the night its even worse. There are people out there that do understand> Thats why sites like this can open a door to some comfort and understanding
Joanna

[Chazity]

I live in south west florida in a town called port charlotte....... I know there are girls just like me on this forum, Cynthia you can message me anytime ,Janice the same goes for you.Janice my wife is not to hip to the dressing as well ,she thinks im gonna want to go full woman,im not i just feel the need to do what i do ,i love womens clothes and for at least one day aweek i can be someone defferent,and not the man that has to make the money or make sure everything is taken care of.................thank you both for your advise huggs to you both

[Roberta Young]

Chazity Please dont feel lonely. sometimes its "the nature of the beast" to feel isolated. do understand the wanting to drop the 'bread winner" and have my femm time. also in south sunny florida. if you wanna talk message me. luv Roberta

[STACY B]

Go out an find a good store to shop in ,,They will talk to ya about fashion an clothes an shoes ,,They love us we spend alot an they get paid to talk to ya ,,Try it its great .You might make some great friends ?

[Antoinette]

I wish I had some friend who dress up too (strictly friends, nothing more). I have gay friends who like to see me dressed but they don't count and they don't dress up. You would think living in nyc you'd find them but the ones I've seen lately around the village are not the type of people i'd hang with. They're loud, obnoxious, and dare I say have that "ghetto" vibe about them. It sucks.

[Karren H]

I thought the same thing but after dressing locally with a few girls a few times.... It really didn't do anything for me at all... Maybe its just me but there was just an underlying awkwardness..... Like wearing the same clothes was the only thing we had in common. I'd much rather go out enfemme alone and mingle with women at stores and such.... Of coarse there are like 600,000 of them locally (half of the 1.2 million in greater Pittsburgh).... Lol. I hated living in a small town for that reason alone.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I am with Karren on this, I have gone out with other CD's but it just seems more natural to go it alone. The only thing better is when I go out dressed with my wife, now that's where it's all at. I love going shopping or for long walks in the malls, it is a very fulfilling experience even just by myself.

[Amanda22]

I am with Karren on this, I have gone out with other CD's but it just seems more natural to go it alone. The only thing better is when I go out dressed with my wife, now that's where it's all at. I love going shopping or for long walks in the malls, it is a very fulfilling experience even just by myself.

I feel completely the same. It seems clothing is such a superficial reason to hang out with another person. And I love my clothes.

[sterling12]

Well, there was a Tri-Ess Group in Ft. Meyers/Port Charlotte. I imagine they are still around. Stop by and see Debbie at her Wig Shop. She will get you to the right people. And Then.....you won't be so isolated!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Katie01]

What I'd give to have a gg friend like you!

[STACY B]

What gets me the most is just wanting to hold a normal conversation with another GG,, An be taken serious ,,Thats all I want ,Just to talk to people like a regular person about anything an everything an not be looked at like your nuts . Just like when ya see a chic somewhere or even someone that knows about you an what you do they still wont give you your do respect of knowing what your talking about or doing. If you were to start talking about makeup to someone that was GG they will give you some advice that you cant use cuz they dont have a beard shadow ,, O rshoes cuz you cant get em in that size ,, Alot of problems you cant relate to with regular girls ,,Ya have to find one of your own,,An thats a big problem cuz most are in the closet or just not real trusting .

[NathalieX66]

Support groups and TG meetups are great....they get you out & meeting people like yourself, and help you evolve.
Lately I've been enjoying going out to non-TG events , and would rather choose to go to mainstream places like supermarkets, malls, restuarants, sports events, and fly under the radar, and be me. I'll do Ruth Chris' Steakhouse in my girl form anyday.

Don't get me wrong. Events like Southern Comfort Conference or Keystone Conference, and others like them are an absolute blast. If you ever want to go to one, by all means, please do. It was the most fun time meeting people I've never met from my girl facebook page in the hotel bars, and chatting.

I also enjoy solo, just going out and being just another girl in the world. I would be most appreciative of being in the company of a woman that tolerates this side of me. I also wish I was a gay guy instead of being TG.......it would just exponentially simplify things more. ....would save lots of money spent on on clothes and hair removal.

[Contessa]

I wish I had some friend who dress up too (strictly friends, nothing more). I have gay friends who like to see me dressed but they don't count and they don't dress up. You would think living in nyc you'd find them but the ones I've seen lately around the village are not the type of people i'd hang with. They're loud, obnoxious, and dare I say have that "ghetto" vibe about them. It sucks.

Antoinette

I'm here for you babe, I can't go with you but you can PM me any time if you want to talk chat about anything. I will soon be able to take lots of pics I hope. Plus I maybe alone so I won't be able to do much else. PM me. I am always looking for someone to converse with.

Ta Ta

Tess

PS; I don't want anything other than conversation. Just like you girl.

[Frédérique]

3 people know about chazity. My sister-in-law, one of my wifes friends ,and my wife.I only have them to talk to,or compare fashion,but they are sometimes to busy and they are women, so there are things i cant talk about cause they dont understand . I so want to find a friend that i can go out with that doesnt want to make it a sexual thing just as friends ...... there are alot of fetish crossdressers ,im not saying i wouldnt be there friends and hang out with them ,im just not into that..........i just feel lonely in my small town ..

[SIZE="2"]Despite what I said about participation (elsewhere), I would be friends, openly, in a small town, with another MtF crossdresser. I also live in a small town, and there’s nowhere to go, nothing to do, and nobody to talk to – this may explain why I frequent this place! I’m also not a “fetish” crossdresser, in fact sex does not enter into the equation, or presentation, so you and I would get along well, Chazity…


Three people know about me (Freddy), so we have a lot in common. Even though I COULD talk to my sister about my crossdressing, I don’t – she’s more interested in males being males, but she loves her brother just as he is. As such, I crossdress and dream in private, and I’m contented, but I also can feel lonely at times…
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[AmandaM]

I thought the same thing but after dressing locally with a few girls a few times.... It really didn't do anything for me at all... Maybe its just me but there was just an underlying awkwardness..... Like wearing the same clothes was the only thing we had in common.

I agree. Very awkward. It's like, "Ok, we're dressed, now what"". Do we go out, do we have sex, do we stare at each other awkwardly not knowing what to do then undress quickly and go home. LOL. Seriously, I think there needs to be something in common besides dressing unless hooking up is your thing.

[marny]

for those of us that have an accepting partner..rejoice every day. more to the point with this thread ..I will borrow from jerry lewis,,,' we all walk alone'.

[danielle.cd]

grass isnt always greener on the other side , me i would love to meet others like me but i get along with more girls then guys and i hang out with girls more than guys , dont get me wrong some of my best friends are guys but i gravitate to women more easily and seem to conect feeling wise with them. now i would like to get to know some cds that share the same intrests, and could hang out in either mode that would be awsome but thats hard to find ,so for me i like the short but much needed interaction with the women while dressed up plus they seem to wana help u more with the makeup tips and hair and such

[Barbara Ella]

Chaxity, you are experiencing what may be a normal progression in your journey. You have reached the point where you desire personal contact, and right now your clothes are the only thing you know. As others have said, dressing may be satisfactory for awhile, but you soon grow so accustomed to it that you are bored. Don't despair if you dont dress with someone. Look for the groups mentioned here. The interaction with these individuals will certainly satisfy the current need for personal contact, and before you know it you will be moving on to another level of contact. Your journey is well underway, Congratulations.

Barbara