mtf member with questions for the GGs
The questions I would like to ask the ladies are these:

1. Did you find out about your partner's cross dressing
(c) Afterwards. After moving in together during college.

2. How did you find out?
(a) He told you directly
He told me initially about a pantie fetish. It progressed from there

3. When you found out about your partner's cross dressing, which of the following emotions were strongest

(c) Fear of the future and confusion about what this all meant. When I found out that it was more than panties, I felt hurt, betrayed, confused, upset, angry. A lot. When I found the porn I was disgusted.

4. Overall, has your partner's crossdressing made your relationship
It has made it harder. It is something we are working though. Dressing doesnt change him, but it is something that is "not normal" and figuring out how to normalize it has been hard.

5. If you had found out sooner would you have
I want to say that I would have been accepting with open arms. Honest? I don't know. I would never search out a CDer as a partner. We had been together for 4 or 5 years when I found out. We were invested. in the beginning? I might have not stayed. Not sure really.

(6) Briefly, if you could advise a woman who has found out the her partner is a cross dresser, what would you say?
This life is hard. But people cannot change who they are. I think this is a part of them. It doesnt make them more loving, caring or anything else. A lot of times i think CDers think they have better qualities becuase they are CDers. I think that those things are not related. If you love the person you are with, the clothes they wear dont change them. Work through it, becuase the person you love is still there.

If you are comfortablw with what I am asking, or not, for that matter, can you let me know?

Yeah thats fine. We like answering questions that help people out.
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