Do many of you have fetishes?

[KarenNY]

I would have to say the entire bridal look is my fetish... I love wedding and formal dresses, I love veils, everything about being a bride... always have since I was probably 10 or 11...

[lisagurl]

nylon panties, reminds me of the panties i first stole from my step mom...

[NicoleScott]

Maybe the definitions are changing and the word "fetish" as it applies to sex now means preference? lol

In none of my other "associations" (work, family, friends, clubs, etc.) do we quibble over definitions like we do here. Maybe we should approach it differently: define a term, then ask the question or invite responses based on this definition.

Instead, we end up all over the place.

Do you have a fetish? Are you transgendered? Transvestite or crossdresser? Passable. Femininity. Woman. and, of course, sl*tty.

[ReineD]

Maybe we should approach it differently: define a term, then ask the question or invite responses based on this definition.

Instead, we end up all over the place.

This is an excellent idea!!

I've read a lot of material, studies on transness, sexuality, etc and I equate "fetish" with a paraphilia, which is something that may start out being fun, but develops into a condition that negatively impacts a person's life ... like the sex addict who can't focus on his work because he's constantly going to the men's room to relieve himself, or the porn addict who loses the ability to make love to his wife without all the porn (which might be fine if she's into it, but a complete disaster if she's not).

Whereas most people in this thread seem to take the word "fetish" as a harmless preference. This is fine, but people reading this who know what real fetishes are might get the wrong impression about CDers in general.

[KarenNY]

This is an excellent idea!!

I've read a lot of material, studies on transness, sexuality, etc and I equate "fetish" with a paraphilia, which is something that may start out being fun, but develops into a condition that negatively impacts a person's life ... like the sex addict who can't focus on his work because he's constantly going to the men's room to relieve himself, or the porn addict who loses the ability to make love to his wife without all the porn (which might be fine if she's into it, but a complete disaster if she's not).

Whereas most people in this thread seem to take the word "fetish" as a harmless preference. This is fine, but people reading this who know what real fetishes are might get the wrong impression about CDers in general.

That's actually a great idea, maybe fetish is too strong a term -- unless it really *is* a fetish of a sexual nature... Would getting weak knees over a beautiful wedding dress count?

[ReineD]

Would getting weak knees over a beautiful wedding dress count?

No. LOL.

... unless you can't perform sexually (or sexual performance is empty) without it.

[whowhatwhen]

I can't perform without a full orchestra, kinda explains a lot actually...

[Krististeph]

Mine is 1800s long dresses and crinolines. Wedding dresses come in a close second.

You have chosen.... wisely! :-) Very good taste, same here. Also uniforms & costumes, if they are well made- no cheap stuff.

Many others as well, What's not to like? Mostly having to do with intensifying the feelings of femininity, perhaps a reaction to not being able to dress 24/7...

As far as sexual fetishes go- sex is in the brain, the rest is just nerve endings.

[ReineD]

I forgot to add, I HATE the word "perform" for either men or women. Sounds like we're all supposed to be trained seals.

Or, is there a fetish for that too?

Seriously, does anyone have a better term than "perform"?