First sorry for the rapid thread postings, but I find myself needing to hear a lot of views on a lot of things which I have kept pent up a long time.
Does anyone have troubles relating to all the things you would have never learned over time as the other gender?
So I was at a friends one day, wearing shorts (guys shorts). Put my foot up on a chair to tie up my shoes. Then it hit me, hmm in this pose, if I had a skirt on, I just flashed my panties to anyone facing this direction. Then I started to wonder, 'how do girls put on shoes in skirts?'. We so as to not advertise their underwear (assumes girls don't wish to I guess).
I was told, well the trick is you wear the right shoes ie shoes you can slip into.
Ok makes sense. But that led to me thinking, ok shoe shopping, I wonder, how hard is it to walk into a store and try on ladies shoes? Do you dress as a female just so you don't look odd trying on women's shoes?
How DOES a guy shop for women's clothing? What's involved in asking to try something on if you are not dressed as a female? And do the bathroom rules apply ie use the men's change rooms only? Which will be a problem considering they have the clothes in the ladies department.
And I have asked myself, am I anatomically pre conditioned to sit like a male? How much trouble is it to unlearn sitting like a guy? Because in a skirt, well I at least know I will have to sit properly. But I have actually tried that on some occasions while out shopping, and damn it, how do they do it? All of my leg muscles seem to bitch about it quite a lot.
Thus far my only success has been bubble baths. I have always been a bath person, not a shower person. But then a life time of pain has made me appreciate a very hot soak. Now I just use soap made for ladies, and take the effort to see to it I have a lot of bubbles. It's funny, because my wife doesn't like bubble baths at all.
But I also wonder, is my body chemically uncooperative where carefully designed scents are concerned?
Since I have been enjoying some rather nice smelling soaps, I have found I actually don't need anti persperant to stay 'clean' smelling ie the opposite of what a man will smell like after an hour sweating through some active sex. I rather like that it even has a side effect of making my clothes stay nice smelling longer.
I should also add, I rather HATE the smell of scents made for men. Yuck, what do they do to make ladies like the stuff? Am I just biologically incapable of liking odors meant only for actual females? Do I like female scents really just because they were always meant to please a male in the first place? Not that it is really important to me liking using them.
But will perfumes work on me correctly? Or will my body's normal chemicals just mangle the scents?
And the tricky question. Ok if I dress like a lady, and I smell like a lady, and I am seeking to be mistaken for a lady, because inside I feel like a lady, how do I react to a guy thinking I am a lady? (men are so dense, so nope, I can actually see guys not knowing the difference).
I don't want a man.
But that is causing no shortage of short circuits in my brain.
Men are supposed to like ladies, ladies are supposed to like men (well that's the hetero take on it at least).
If I am so sure I am a lady inside, shouldn't I want a man?
Am I a lesbian trapped in a male body.
Does that make me a very awkward homosexual?
Shit some days I almost think it would be easier if I WAS homosexual.
But I am NOT.
I don't have any problems with our world's homosexual people by the way.
You are just what you are, no more unusual than blondes, or people of different colour of those that write left handed.
I'm not going to bore anyone though with my extensive knowledge of the human mind (simply because it hasn't helped me yet either). I don't think my sexuality can be summed up by the chemicals my body generates, and the organs I had at birth. 'Minds' are so not that simple.
I won't mind people focusing on any one part of this post and not the rest if you only have a comment on a portion of it. Just trying to limit how many threads I pen in one hour.