Hi Dianne,
Welcome to the Forum. I personally was not bashing Kitty and I respect her opinions and those of others. I was disagreeing with her. These type of threads pop up here all the time and get all types of comments, which are mostly repeats by what the posters have written before. What that lady was thinking and doing, and all the Why's and What's are not known by anyone here because no one here talked to here. It is all conjecture. It is her life and if she wants help, I think, being an adult, she knows how to ask for it. Maybe she was very happy to be out presenting exactly like she did. If I read between the lines of your post, like others who are negative on how that lady was presenting herself, I would say that you are criticizing her too, directly or indirectly. She probably does not need anyone's help. She is being she. You are criticizing her just because she does not conform to your line of thinking and that of many others here. Well, as you have probably already noticed, all of us who crossdress fall way outside the norms of most of society. Do you want to be criticized for dressing in the opposite gender's clothes? I don't, and therefore, I duly respect and fight for others Rights to dress and present as they like, whether or not it meets my personal idea of what is presentable. I try very hard to be respectful of everyone, even those that I disagree with, and I think that I am mostly doing that. I only request that everyone look at their own written opinions as an open minded third party might, and maybe they will see that sometimes their own "supporting" comments fall far short of doing that.
It seems more like acceptance if you meet their rules, not unconditional acceptance. When people can accept others for who they are and look past the "looks", then you will see the big changes for tolerance and acceptance that we all, at least I think it is all, strive for.