In my experience I think finding out about cding is = to having an affair to some wifes. I was accused of this at one time - not true - and paid the price on the couch for a week untill I finally had enough and told her if she didn't believe me it was her problem and too bad and that I loved her and was faithful, things went back to normal. I think she still knows and accepts me for who I am; however this cding only came up a few yrs ago - she would rather it hadn't but still knows that I am hers in whatever form. Acceptance-no but realizing I am still hers and putting up with me being "wierd" as she calls it is fine with me.
I am sure you have reassured her of your devotion and are faithful - maybe realization of being "wierd" may be in the offering and knowing it can't be related to unfaithfulness -- best wishes, huggs .............................Debra