Last night, when you had your martini's, you made it clear that men were a part of the fantasy as well. So, you must be considering the idea of it, or it wouldn't have been written while drunk and turned on. Please read a thread that I wrote, that is about my husbands past experimenting. You may find it useful.
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...with-a-Husband
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Hi Mandy,
I went back and read your thread; pretty insightful and it's obvious that I'm not the only guy in the world with an active imagination! I think the post that got closest to what my emotions are, and I apologize now for not remembering the posters name or giving credit was " The truth is, for hetero CDers the sexual excitement is over wanting to feel feminine, not an attraction to men." Amen Sister!! In a couple of the threads people made mention of wanting to experience the whole side of being a woman, including the sex. I love feeling feminine, and perhaps to rephrase my Martini thoughts would be..." to be a woman for a day, and to know what it feels like to be made love to by my SO" Role reversal if you will!
You can't possibly be serious. Why would you even post crap like this?
I hope you did get some use out of it, and maybe the next time you are feeling "that way" you will think back to it and remember that sometimes it is best to leave a fantasy as a fantasy.Originally Posted by GiannaD
That's what I thought at first, too! Then I remembered how Audrey felt before marriage with me, and I realized this must have been his thought process back then... So I felt some empathy.
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Ok I vote sicko, no wait I ment perv, Oh wait it was sicko, yeah thats it !, ummmmmmm no perv im sure of it !
Actually you have a serious fetish/fantasy going on, and I have to agree with others , that these kind of posts are best left for analysts.
Meh, no need to dogpile here though.
As we all know some people CD for sexual reasons, so it should be no surprise if fantasy hornyboners pop up every now and then.
Everyone ends up finding a posting groove eventually.
When I was in the heyday of youth I dressed as a 23 year old would...with the make up and hair I drew a few men towards their first "experiment".
My GF pretty much demanded I pass her muster I would have to redo the make up...
Now as the winter of my years approaches I dress simply because I want to.
One bit of advice a friend gave me...make certain that whoever you try to get to "take" you knows what they're getting into, no hand up the skirt surprise."
Be careful out there,
Khelli
Jus' tryin' to sendand understanding your way.
Umm, no guts?? Or a deep down conscience that is aware that this 'anonymous' path leads to STIs and risk of violence??? Multiple partner sex can be safe and fun, if it floats your boat - BUT in a situation like you are talking there is no guarantee you won't end up with a nasty, possibly terminal disease or infection, and you certainly aren't thinking about it in a safe way.
Why does a feminine being with an interest and desire for sex automatically have to 'be' a 'sl ut??' why do women who like sex have to take a low class, submissive, exploitated role if they are not being 100% vanilla?? Boggles the mind.
Thank you!I got a bit tired of being the anti-sl ut banner waver and decided to try a slightly different tack with the same overall sentiment.. And I really appreciate you (and Vicki_CDTV) taking the torch and holding it high!
You're married? When I read your first post I thought you were a single guy into the CDing for sexual fetish, wanting to express a single guy's sexual appetite. Honestly, I don't think that sl*t or skank even comes into it the way we apply this to women.
Does your wife know that you're dreaming about having sexual experiences elsewhere (it doesn't matter whether it is with men or women)?
As an aside, my SO and I had an interesting conversation tonight. This was before I read your thread, but I was describing the sentiment you describe that is so often expressed here: this seeming overwhelming need for CDers to have sex with men so they can experience sex as "women" (albeit without the vagina). My SO and I were talking about whether having these fantasies (when they are frequent and strong enough), is cheating or not even when the fantasies are not acted upon. At first my SO told me that she didn't think so.
But then I asked her how she would feel if I felt a rush over another man (say someone that I worked with or even someone I don't know that I would have met at a bar) and he began to take up a lot of head space, if I began flirting with him and to outside eyes this would seem harmless enough, but would rock my world internally, if I masturbated frequently to mental images of this guy and I making love, and if thoughts of sex with my SO kinda took a back seat (of if I imagine that my SO was this guy while we were making love) while all of this was going on. My SO's face fell when she heard all of this and I had my answer. She would consider my energies going towards fantasies with this other guy (if they were strong enough), just as damaging to our relationship as if I had actually had sex with him.
I felt bad to see her face fall, I've absolutely no intentions of going there, but it's amazing how quickly attitudes can change when the shoe is imagined on the other foot.
Last edited by ReineD; 05-26-2012 at 01:43 AM.
Reine
The first part: that can be true. Some want to have the full female experience. Others though are just in the closet and use it as an excuse to have sex with men. Which is it? Hard to say. Each of us who are interested in the why's should try to decouple the feelings they have inside them as it relates to cding to try to find some truth.
The second part: I'm not sure if that's a good example because cders may have a strong gender-pull which does not exist in non-cd people. I don't know. Just wondering.
I actually wish there were more threads like this here. It isn't just about dressing up, it's also about what's inside. I have often thought (and said to others), if it weren't for potential STDs and unwanted pregnancies, I would have lived a much different sexual life. This is especially true because I loathe condoms. I am not turned on by men, but I am by their plumbing. As it is, 99.7% of my sexual experience came from my ex-wife, who was beautiful and insatiable (and a cheater, on a massive scale, which is why I divorced her). Less than 100 times total the rest of my life with eight other women. No gender experimentation other than dressing up.
Last edited by Anneliese; 05-26-2012 at 06:19 AM.
Ladies,
While I am thoroughly enjoying the feminine aspects of cross dressing, and exploring my new found fetish, frankly at heart I'm still a genetic male. If it's one thing I've learned in 47 years of being on Planet Earth is that, by and large, men are horny! How they chose to find release for this character trait/flaw is pretty much up to them. Is fantasy part of it. Of course! Do we act on all our fantasies; some yes, some no. Do I love and honor my wife, you're damn right. There isn't a better woman in this world (no reflection on your SO'd, I'm a bit biased!). Does she know that I'm as horny as a double peckered billy goat; oh yes! Does she know that I'm more on the side of kinky/perv than normal 47 yo males; yes she does.
Having just spent the day at the pool; a couple of observations...One, I still enjoy looking at women from a beauty/sexy perspective (yes, again, my wife knows I look) and can definitively say that I don't get the same "stirrings" from looking at guys in their swim suits. The funner aspect was looking at all the mommies and studying their toes, hair, the way they wore their swimsuits, boobs in their suits, cleavage, fingernails, etc. Simple observation I think is going to be key in helping me select appropriate dress styles.
Thanks for clarifying, Gianna.
It's true, the Venus and Mars thing. There are just a lot of things about men that I hear, I believe, and in a cognitive way I understand, but that I just don't "get".
Reine
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