So, for those who present, how do you feel about the attention you get from guys? I noticed today that every woman who came into where I was having lunch was checked out by all the guys, regardless of her age or looks. Nothing conscious on thier part, but when I paid attention to it, I really saw it. The women also checked out the men as they came in, but it was much more subtle.
I don't think I'll ever present, but I am curious how it makes those who do go out dressed feel.
It feels rewarding if they don't figure out I'm a dude in a dress. I am ecstatic when I blend.
It is really an eye opener to see this from both sides if you can luck in to pulling it off. As a guy you typically don't get that kind of attention and then when you are CDing at first it seems like guys are reading you, but instead they may actually be checking you out. It is a really odd feeling especially if you are not looking for that kind of attention. But, there is a slight buzz knowing someone in the world finds you desirable.
Chickie
Someone better look when I walk into a room...
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Hi,
As a woman & it makes little difference wether men or women ill allways be looked at i dress a little different as in my pic i dont mind im so used to that now.
My facial features are more masculine i dont do the make up, if lippy & eyebrow liner is counted i have no need i have lovely skin & its olive so why cover up whats nice.
When i dress in my period wear or garb then of cause im looked at much more because our style is so different & not seen on our streets much i have fun &
enjoy being dressed in my clothes that way infact its more me,
You know what some of my out fits are really lovely = a wench & Chatiline- lady of the Castle.
...noeleena...
I'm rather relieved to report that I don't get much attention from guys. I think the combination of height, age, and a prominent wedding ring seems to take care of that issue.
Eryn
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"What do you care what other people think?" [Arlene Feynman, to her husband Richard]
"She's taller than all the women in my family, combined!" [Howard, in The Big Bang Theory]
"Tall, tall girl. The woman could hunt geese with a rake!" [Mary Cooper, in The Big Bang Theory]
I don't want attention from guys, in fact it worries me. Are they interested because I look female or because they know I'm a guy in a dress?
When I go out it's for me to feel comfortable and enjoy myself. I might be in the minority, not sure.
I made a point once to see if it was true that most men look at all the women who pass by, and I also notice they do this. Some are more obvious about it than others. I'm told it's an automatic response, something to do with a guy's wiring or something.It's fun to observe a man who is with his wife; he knows just when and how to look (when his wife has her attention elsewhere). lol
Anyway, I'm also told that most female passers-by won't hold these men's attention. They glance, determine whether she is worth looking at or not, and if she isn't they don't give her another glance. Likely the men themselves don't even notice they do this, unless of course a good looking woman walks by and then it's a signal to have a longer look.
Given this information, I wouldn't let it flatter or bother you, since looking up is an instinctual response not unlike blinking. If on the other hand you have the body shape/sexy clothes/hair/etc that merit a second look, then you can decide how you feel about it. But, I should think that anyone who dresses that way does so because they enjoy the attention?
Reine
This may be true in some cases, but in my experience one does not need to dress sexy, have their hair done up or have a terrific body in order to get attention by men. The mere fact that they are female often times will suffice. Not sexy to some is going to be sexy to someone else. Remember... it takes all kinds to make the world go round. I know that you didn't mean it in this context, but your statement does sound a bit like... Well she's was asking for it because of the way she looks or because of the way she is dressed. There have been plenty of times where i have taken my kids down to walk on the boardwalk wearing jeans, a sweatshirt, no make up, and tennis shoes and there's been some guy who's checking me out like I am on the menu. No do, no sexy black skirt, no black stockings and wearing a wedding ring with a diamond who's shine could be spotted from outer space. With my kids for CS! it's not whether you're frumpy or fantastic.. it's men and and the way they are wired.. gotta love them though. ( for the most part)
Kel
Thera Home Your testosterone is showing . If I wanted to duke it out with every guy who payed me unwanted attention I mights as well set up shop in a boxing ring.You just can't do that.. besides fighting isn't lady like!
Last edited by kellycan27; 06-08-2012 at 03:39 PM.
No. lol. I was saying that if a woman is quite ordinary looking, in most cases after the initial first glance, she will be dismissed. If she's beautiful and has a good body, she will get that longer look no matter what she wears. I dare say that most of us, in our day-to-day, banging around appearance are quite ordinary looking. Also, age plays a role in this.
I was also suggesting that unless a CDer naturally has the type of body that is eye-catching, if she dresses to blend and just goes out looking like a regular female (especially if this CDer is the average age in this forum which is in the 40s or 50s), she won't get glanced at any more than the ordinary woman. If, on the other hand, she has the big breast forms, curvy hip and butt pads, waist cincher, dressed in clothes that particularly enhance this, then yes, she will get that second look but again, if this is her choice of appearance, is it because she wants to be noticed as a voluptuous woman?
Reine
Tongue in cheek comments on this one.
Firstly I was watching a TV program on advertising and they quoted a study that looked at social interactions between people, specifically what they "look" at when they meet someone. Women typically "look" at the face and keep their attention on the face. Men, whilst also looking at the face, almost universally also look at the groin, and even when talking or involved in a conversation will still intermittently look at the other persons groin. This is irrespective of the gender of the person they meet!
Secondly My wife was recently at a function and talking with some (male) friends. A lady entered the room who was rather, shall we say well endowed" and well, according to my wife, was certainly making the most of her endowments. Well, the friend that was speaking at the time this person walked past literally just stopped mid sentence. Bit of typical male chauvanistic behaviour you could say but my wife said that even she and another lady who was in the group were basically "wow, thats certainly on display". The other lady (from Queensland, think an australian version of Texas) said "we call that the cattle dog bra look. It goes round back and pushes em up".
From my experience men would notice any woman and say something. I've been whistled at, call out at, I've even had one come up to me (I got nervous on that one) part of me loves the attention but the other part doesn't want it to go no further than a holler
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Well I havent gone out CDing but in my freshman year of high school I had my hair at its longest(slightly past the collar bone) and that's when I was becoming aware of how feminine I looked. I noticed alot of guys couldn't help give me a glance an then would look at me somewhat puzzled when they realized I was male. Ofcourse I was 14 at the time and didn't quite have the same outllook on gender that I do today so my reaction was typical of most guys, very pissed off lol. But if I get mistaken for a woman now I get rediculously happy.
Well I was dressed in a short black skirt, black panty hose, 4 in heels and was with the wife putting gas in her car. The island over was a guy that was really checking me out!! My back was to him as I was watching the cars go by in the street. When I got back in the car my wife relayed this info to me. We both had a good laugh as if he only knew what he was Checking out. Made me fill good though!!!
BobbieB
I can't help but be the "center of attention" when I'm out on the dance floor dancing en femme, even for gay guys. Then it kind of becomes a matter of just "how" they are looking at me. Lately I have incorporated female pheromones in my fragrance as an experiment. What I've found with that is that being "looked at" is pretty much a guarantee.
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Well I suppose I enjoy the 'confirmation' of being femme by men noticing me when out and about but really, it's the women I want to notice me, not the men. Having said that, there is simply no way on earth to stop men from staring at someone wearing a pair of heels, hose and sexy skirt/dress. The heels alone, turns mens heads everytime without fail.
[SIZE="3"]When I'm out en femme I enjoy attention from a guy, be it a look, smile, or a comment. If I'm alone, walking to a club or in a parking garage I have felt vulnerable, GG's I've talked to say it's the same for them sometimes.[/SIZE]
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I guess anyone in short black skirt, hose and heels putting gas in car would get positive attention. Maybe that's why a lot of GG's go about in sweatshirts and jeans, to deter a lot of unwanted attention?
Be careful with this. Some guys become violent when they discover the "girl" they were admiring is really a guy. There are unstable people out there who can easily become violent and this is the sort of thing that might push someone over the edge.
The other side of this: as a GG I would not wear short skirts, black hose, and 4 inch heels and bend over while putting gas in my car. But then I've been socialized to always be aware of my safety. And like outhiking said, this would be unwanted attention for me.
Reine
Just take off your heels and kick his ass. ( oops,did I just say that)
Thera
I love it when guys check me out.
Guys can be complicated sometimes. If the guy finds out the girl he's been looking has a penis, he might try to distance himself or he may become violent. Even if the guy might be into special girlshe may turn hostile or even violent because he's worried about what his friends may think.
My wife dosent mind me looking. You know look but don't touch.
I used to be checked out a lot when I was 20 and had an army of female supporters.
The surprised look when they found out I was a guy was always rewarding.
It was fun being the center of attention and I was proud of it.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
Well... to add my two cents worth, I havent been out in public but if I ever do and men notice me I would feel like theyll know Im a man in womens clothes and that would make me very uncomfortable. I would not have an issue with women noticing me probably since Im wired that way I would enjoy that much better. Oh my, would that make me a semi lesbian? Hmmmm............
Thera
Last edited by Thera Home; 06-08-2012 at 02:20 PM.
I would love attention from guys if I were to go out. I got it once, even though he was drunk, he tried dancing with me :-P
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