Betrayed

[Raquel June]

There is a difference between a guy putting on heels, nylons, or panties for kink in the bedroom (non-CDers do this too) and presenting fully as a woman with forms, wig, makeup, and complete outfits, ready to go out as a woman, and choosing a time to do so that is purposely intended to keep the wife from finding out.

I understand that. And I understand someone being shocked by catching their husband doing that. What I don't understand is equating it to cheating.

Everybody here is looking at things from a different perspective because the OP refused to give the actual details of what happened. So we're just speculating. But it's unfair to assume the husband was actually going out to do something wrong. And if we can't assume he was doing something wrong, it's very unfair to be so critical of him.

What if they lived in the middle of nowhere? What if he just went outside and drove around for a bit and came back? Is that a betrayal? I don't think so.

Is it that naive of me to say there is a possibility of this being innocent? Maybe it is, but the ramifications of that is pretty damning for crossdressers as a whole, so I'd prefer to keep my head in the clouds.

In all honestly, I dont think its worth bothering to reply to you - you clearly have no intention of seeing this from another person's viewpoint - i.e. the OP but please dont insinuate about my feelings on people who have gender issues, I have no problem with people's gender, be it expressed, real or percieved gender , what I have a problem with is lies, deceit and subterfuge.

And just because the OP hasnt posted again, it doesnt mean she hasnt come back to read the posts - I dont post every day but I do read plenty of posts on a daily basis.

This is just another example of people shooting a new GG down in flames when she is looking for some kind of help on a help forum - sucks

As I've said many times, I can see it from the wife's viewpoint. I can see how she could be hurt. What I'm offended by is that 90% of the people here can't even entertain the possibility of the husband being anything less than a horrible person.

Cant we just accept the Op for what she says? Rather than try to play forum detective?

Yes. Let's accept what the OP said. And let's not play detective. Let's look at the facts. The OP said she had not actually made any rules about how he could dress outside the house, and the OP did not say what her husband was going out to do.

What ever the details I see a woman who is hurt and confused who came here looking for support. How about a little compassion?

OK, I'll be compassionate. You're all right. People who wear the wrong clothes outside of the house are all gross perverts and liars.