Not an "obligation", but if people ask for help and I can; why not?
Not an "obligation", but if people ask for help and I can; why not?
[SIZE="3"]Caroline
Tranny Granny[/SIZE]
If it's not of a financial nature, happy to help!Originally Posted by Wildaboutheels
Never obligated, only to the UK taxman!
Rebecca x
Ok, "obligation" was a trick word. Used for a reason. Does it matter why people choose to help?
Do you think "honest Injun" polls COULD help some people?
And if you do, WOULD you participate in them?
This is one of those questions with only 3 possible answers.
1] I think any/all polls are silly or useless and would never participate in one.
2] I think they can be beneficial and might participate in SOME.
3] I would participate in all of them cuz I just wuvvvvvv polls.
Ok, wiseguys and wisegals. Any other choices besides those 3?
It's always been my stance that I'd help anyone who asks, so long as it was help I could provide. In extreme cases I'll spring to action, but generally I don't prod for information.
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."
Oscar Wilde
I'm not qualified to give advice, all I can do is offer my own life experiences and perhaps that in some small way can be helpful. This site is for letting one be themselves and express their hopes and desires, not to judge.
Fulfilling a Lifetime Dream of Living as a Woman in My Adult Years.Ten Years Living 24/7 as a Mature Lady
My Love of Cat's Eye Frames, Bangles, Red Lipstick, Nails, & Cheeks, Comes From My Mother - An Irish Beauty
I'm Always Rainbow Proud
I feel no obligation to help
I think your trying to post a poll and slither your way in to do it is childish. just like this poll
I think you should stop and just follow the rules.
I think lately you have been asking a lot of poll like question.
I don't think any poll is worth a damn since the sample size is always small and fractured on this site.
I think you and your dog need a time out for trying so dang hard to do that end run.
You laugh at me because I'm different. I laugh at you because your all the same
Unless you know something I don't, it is a moot point.
Having been here when polls were operational, I can tell you that there was a REAL good reason they were disabled. They became battle grounds for selected people to bully and flame. Not saying that there wasn't interesting and fun polls. I remember one that really ended up showing that the percentage of Bi, straight and gay members is very close to accepted numbers. The problem comes into other matters. And the Mods here (and the admins) have a tough job letting us play as it is. There is a reason we can't discuss politics, why religion is relegated to its area, why we cannot give graphic details of our sexual (usually imagined) adventures.
I am not sure that polls will accomplish anything. They are at best academic and at worst skewed to whoever feels the need to answer. The questions can be manipulated to elicit responses that can be misinterpreted. And that is what happened. Right now things seem to be flowing as smoothly as they ever were. I doubt the power that be will re-activate the poll feature.
The earth is the mother of all people and all people should have equal rights upon it.
Chief Joseph
Nez Perce
“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” - Fred Rogers,
I do my best to keep others from being taken over by the pink fog here; I think it's dangerous to forget that much of the rest of the world thinks we're a bit odd at best, and perverted child molesters at worst. There are lots of things that other people do that we usually never notice that can affect our lives significantly, and it's easy to forget that until something really bad happens (being 'downsized', evicted, or even physically attacked), these things can happen easily and the perpetrators can simply come up with another reason why they do it to you to avoid the prejudice or hate tag.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
The only thing I feel obligated is to offer my opinion... Whether its wanted or not! Lol. Honestly I love helping people almost to a flaw. If they are in need... And humble. I've sent people on this forum clothes and makeup and hair and on other forums even money..... but I don't feel obligated to do so... I want to do it.... Locally I'm into volunteering for charities and into random acts of kindness.....
Yes, but by Participating here; by giving our opinions and advise, if not obligated, then are we compelled to do these things?
I have always argued that we get something out of this too! That is, when we help others. Most of the people who are responding on this thread have hundreds, if not thousands of messages posted. Most of the time, what we write is in the form of advise or opinion. So, we must be getting "something" out of corresponding. It can't all be cathartic. If not out of a sense of obligation to help other TG Sisters, then what is it?
Peace and Love, Joanie
Hi WAH, If I can offer some good advise I'm happy to do so.
There's not to many questions that comes up that someone can't help with.
Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~......
I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !
If at first you don't succeed, Then Skydiving isn't for you.
Be careful what you wish for, Once you ring a bell , you just can't Un-Ring it !! !!
I don't know that polls are really a 'help' for other people. All you see is a tabulation of what other people have chosen from a set of predetermined answers, decided by a person with their own predetermined views on things. In terms of the list you have given, this is really more of a long-answer-discussion sort of question - WHY do you feel the way you do about polls? In my experience, internet polls are either to help the poster decide from multiple options (with presumably the most popular option being chosen or 'right' - like, 'What should I name my puppy? Storm, Ragnarok or Shazaam?') or are designed to simplify and sway the people reading it into fitting one of the categories.
I do think it's important to help other people... I was a girl guide as a kid, they made me promise to do that every week! :P I don't think that polls are the right thing for this group dynamic, but if you like them, there are plenty of other forums which use them. No one says you have to be forum-monogamous!
Yes. I feel obligated in the sense that we are all obligated to put a hand out to those traveling the path behind us. For most people and issues I only have opinions, but for those that are doing what I've done I would be remiss in not helping to hold the flashlight on occasion. I have learned many hard lessons during my transition and I would feel guilty if I didn't share them with those that may be interested. I am only one (bad)tranny who can only speak from my experience, but I owe it to the next girl to be honest.
I don't seek a Karmic return for my help but I would certainly expect one if I didn't even try.
LOL
I just love you lady.
...yuk not in THAT way!
Obligated to help - no, not at all. It's just a natural tendency from time to time - as do a lot of others here.
If I can I do - Its really the best way to help those who helped me along the way.
lol for some reason, I feel sort of like this is a poll!
So, no, I don't feel *obligated* to help people. However, I do just like to be help people...so, I just usually help people because I like to do it. It doesn't really matter if it's on this forum, or in person...I was raised to lend a helping hand whenever I can to a neighbor. I like to think of society as people helping each other out and looking out for each other...but, this is definitely not always true.
I also am a really bad liar, so honesty works best for me. I also don't have much of a filter, so I just kind of say things as they come...which, results in more honesty than most people actually bargain for...
I also participate in polls, because I think they are kind of fun. I like to give my opinion when people ask for it...and, often when not asked for it lol. And, like a lot of people, I enjoy talking about myself... So, yeah, polls are pretty fun sometimes.
"Today a young man [...] realized that all matter is merely energy condensed to a slow vibration...that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively...there is no such thing as death, life is only a dream, and we are the imagination of ourselves. Here's Tom with the Weather.”-Bill Hicks
“What freedom men and women could have, were they not constantly tricked and trapped and enslaved and tortured by their sexuality! The only drawback in that freedom is that without it one would not be a human. One would be a monster.” East of Eden by Steinbeck
The polls were eliminated because in the more serious polls (we did have some fun polls too) where people would ask questions to specific groups of people, many of the members either disregarded the parameters and responded anyway thus rendering the poll meaningless, or they treated the whole thing as a joke.
Some people use this site for support or information. Other people are here to fantasize or have fun and they don't really care about the other stuff.
Reine
Not an obligation. If I think I have something of benefit to share or if a person is really hurting I'll try to help. But obligation...no.
As the title says... "Crossdressers.com The #1 Community...." That alone says everything.
We are a community and as such we help each other. It's not an obligation, it's just what we do. That's why we are here.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
I don't think in terms of obligation, but helping others seems the right thing to do when I can, and considering how much help has been extended to me. I'm also mindful of the specialized nature of gender issues, that it is not something for which you can easily find knowledgeable assistance and advice.
Lea
Not an obligation, but others have helped me and when possible I try to do the same.
Obligation? No. However, I think many of us here will try to contribute if their own experiences can somehow help someone else with any issues they may be having. But really, none of us have any kind of duty to do so if they choose not to.
Any money found in the laundry is MINE!
"This is no social crisis....this is me having fun!"
www.flickr.com/photos/tgmarla/
It was clearly a mistake to try to steer the thread to whether polls [with "resrtictive" guidelines] could be one more method of providing INFOrmation to people as to the "mysteries" of why ALL us crazy people sometimes need to put on the wrong clothes. No matter how often we do or just how far we might go to appear as or be treated as a female or how much money we might spend. The polls would be MAINLY beneficial to newbies or lurkers. And GGs of course. For a new person to see a list of perhaps 50 things and realize that perhaps 5, 10 or 15 are applicable to themself would have to make them a little more comfortable wouldn't it? Make them feel a little less alone or a little less worried that something is "wrong" with them for having their desires?
There are certain questions that never get asked here. Some OBVIOUS ones aren't there? Maybe they are against the rules or maybe few people would be willing to respond? I think most people agree that for most all of us there are multiple pieces to the puzzle that make up all of us. And how many of us here have not changed over the years? Are in a different place from where we started?
IF polls [survey might be a better term actually] were completly ANONYMOUS as in possibly one giant sticky or specific stickies for each Forum [a bad idea I think for several reasons] people would be more likely to admit or check boxes for their own particular "quirks". Things or thoughts they are unwilling or unwanting to disclose in threads with their name attached. THE poll or polls would simply say started by Site. Many initial questions would be obvious choices such as 1] How long have you been Crossdressing with a-d or a-f for possible answers. No writing allowed/space for it. Just tick off any boxes that apply to you. Newbies or guests could VIEW this survey but could NOT take it or contribute to it unless and until they joined and had posted let's say 20 times. That should keep out most of the teenagers and riffraff with too much time on their hands just looking to cause trouble.
In the beginning members could all contribute to a pool of questions and admin/the Mods could decide which ones would make the cut as to the final product. Maybe one day a month [?] additional questions to be added to survey [or removed] could be SUGGESTED by memebers but in a regular thread.
Again, this would mostly benefit new members and might help entice some to join.
Last edited by Wildaboutheels; 07-05-2012 at 10:29 AM. Reason: spelling
No obligation to help.
I hope that helps.
Posting Permissions
