I've read a lot of posts here about "coming out" to family and friends. I'm one of the ones who is NOT in favor of coming out, but my reasons for not doing so are somewhat different from those I've seen posted here.
I make little or no effort to hide my crossdressing, and I don't particularly care what others think of me. For me, these things are not the issue.
It seems to me that when you tell someone you're a crossdresser or transgendered, then suddenly, that's the only thing you are. But crossdressing does not define me. I am a lot of other things besides being a crossdresser, and ultimately these other things are much more important.
I am out to a number of people, but the only one I told directly was my wife. The others have found out by accident. I don't ever bring up the subject myself. If someone else brings it up, usually say that I don't think it's all that important, and let it go with that.
That's not to say that crossdressing is not important to me. It is, or I wouldn't be on this forum. But it's important to me in the same way that having two hands is important. I love having two hands, and I would go to great lengths to keep them. But if I lost one, I would still be the same person.
What are your thoughts?