Suzy, if someone ever slams you for your choices, you have every right to tell them to mind their own business. And maybe some members here do post with the intention of making a subtle comparison, in a passive-agressive manner. But I know that many others are simply relating their own experiences with no judgment on anyone else.
So I think in forums where we only have the typed word to rely on and not tone of voice and the all-important non-verbal language, the onus is on each member to choose to see the positive rather than the negative in the text, unless of course there is outright criticism.
I was told something years ago (at a period of time when I was unhappy and critical of others): "If you spot it, you got it", meaning that it is not uncommon for people to project their own feelings or insecurities onto other people's motives. But if they do this repeatedly in a negative manner as I did, they need to learn to look at internal root causes rather than focus on other people's behaviors or motives, unless of couse the other person is being flagrantly malicious.
OK. I'll get off my soapbox now.