I was trying to remember when I made that mental jump where Crossdressing moved from being Wrong to being Just Different. I had been dressing infrequently for many years and had slowly been expanding my collection of clothing and accessories. It was still "wrong" as I began to take my things with me when I traveled for work and even to my first meeting with other crossdressers. It was a day or two later on the way home it hit me and I accepted my crossdressing and rejected the Wrongness that had been weighing me down. That was about 11 years ago and I've been much happier, most of the time, since that weight was banished.
Have you been able to make that jump? If so, what were the circumstances that helped?