[SIZE="2"]“They’ve already said YES to it.” (from The Shock of the New by Robert Hughes)
The world is divided into two camps – the ones who say YES to crossdressing, and the ones who say NO to crossdressing. Needless to say, the latter far outnumber the former, and the ones who say YES to crossdressing are constantly being persuaded to say NO to something they either love or want to love...
Of course, I said YES to crossdressing many years ago, exactly five seconds after I fastened a skirt around my waist and felt the air caress my semi-virgin knees. From that moment on, I have said YES to the physical act of crossdressing, the feelings it provides, and the euphoria I get from just being completely unlike those who say NO. Why be negative when you can be positive? Why say NO to urges that originate deep inside one’s soul? Why say NO to whom you are, or who you want to be, when you can say YES and enjoy life on your own terms? Why, indeed...
I know, it’s not easy to say YES to crossdressing when nearly everyone says NO to it for one reason or another. NO!!! is being screamed at you from all sides 24/7. Other males, otherwise known as your peers, say NO without thinking too much about it. They want you to be as strong as they are, so why are you willfully upsetting masculinity? Females say NO without thinking, too. Do they feel threatened or insulted in some way? Surely you’re joking, right? Once again you’re upsetting the gender-specific boundaries almost everyone has bought in to, reinforced in the media ad nauseum as you struggle to find acceptance in an increasingly hostile world...
Of course, outsiders say YES to crossdressing when it’s served up as entertainment – by laughing at crossdressing they’re saying NO to it, getting a chuckle out of it at your expense. Oh, how hilarious it all is, especially when exaggerated “performances” are put forth as the accepted “face” of crossdressing! Where will it end? You, a minority of a minority, are trying to say YES to your beloved dressing-up, but the whole world is saying NO in no uncertain terms. At times like this it feels like you’re immersed in a water bath, slowly being equalized with your negative surroundings. They want you to say NO, for their benefit, but you are stubborn and determined to say YES all the while...
You find a site like this one, where you can finally find other true individuals who have learned to say YES with aplomb, and somehow keep the NO world at bay. You feel relief, but something is not quite right in more ways than one. Looking around, you find many people who are either trying to say YES consistently, or they are in the process of saying NO and joining normalcy for good. Those who purge are trying to say NO, but they really want to say YES and hang on to their precious crossdressing. The wife, the SO, your friends, your family, and your co-workers all want you to say NO, and they’ll be happy when you do so. Is it worth throwing your “self” away to make everyone else happy? How can you say NO and be truly happy with yourself?
I suppose that many people are stuck between YES and NO, and they would really rather not have to make decisions in line with socially correct polar opposites. Some don’t have a choice, but for a typical CD like me, it’s wonderful to say YES each and every day to the natural urge to crossdress. I survive by simply limiting my exposure to those who insist on saying NO to crossdressing. In my mind, they cannot appreciate something as positive and life-affirming as putting on a dress and getting in touch with things that males are not supposed to experience. In a huge way, crossdressing itself is like saying YES to genuine existence, and NO to a life of drab expectation – if I look into my closet of goodies and say NO, I am effectively saying NO to myself and all that I can be. How can that possibly be a good thing?
Are you saying YES to crossdressing, or are you trying to say NO to it? [/SIZE]