I started to post this as a reply to "Passing - It's really BS" but didn't want to take form the OP.
I will try to make this short. I was in Walmart dressed and wanted to use the Red Box. There were 2 kids playing on it. The father was about 10 feet away so I asked him if they were going to rent a movie. He said no and motioned them away. They ignored him. So I said to the kids "Pardon me". All but one moved away. I repeated "Pardon me", at that point the last kid gave me a dirty look and moved away. I started my purchase. A woman approached me and asked "What did you say to my kids." I told her "Pardon me was all I said." At that point she said, "that better be all you said." She pissed me off. [My first mistake]. I then repeated the entire process and said if you don't believe me ask him; and pointed to the man still standing 10 feet away. She started screaming at me say things like no fagot is going to yell at my kids. I fired back asking what her problem was. [My second mistake]. At that point the man got between us and started saying all kinds of shit I won't repeat. I could see the hate in his eyes, and I was in danger. I turned and walked back outside where he followed me saying all kinds of stuff. He gave up when I crossed the roadway in front of the store going to the parking places.
The man didn't clock me at first but the women did right away. I honestly believe that this wouldn't have happened if I passed.
They were a bunch of rednecks, I know, and it was Walmart where rednecks tend to gather. Yes I did make some mistakes, and the only thing that got hurt was my feelings but it could have been a lot worst. It was a rare occasion too. I seldom have trouble when in public even though I don't always pass.
I post this not for sympathy, [I don't need it] but for others to take heed and be careful. Also to show that passing is not always BS but can be very important.
I just wanted to run to out to get a movie. I didn't go to the extremes I usually do to be as passable as possible. It cost me that time. But I did learn from my mistakes. I also learned to always walk away from conforntations, you almost never win.