Compromising is very important in a marriage; especially if one falls in the TG spectrum. My wife knew that I was a crossdresser before we were married, but it wasn't until a few years after that, I realized I was a transsexual. I did come out and tell her and it hasn't been easy. I am lucky to have her. Despite all the tears, fights, and disappointments we have come she is still with me. I dress and go out in public. I can dress at home around her, but not the kids. I can occasionally buy items that I need (dresses, clothes, makeup, etc). I had to compromise on a few things though. I want to go get my nails done professionally, but she is uncomfortable with that. So instead, I grow them out naturally. I hate having a hairy chest, but she doesn't want me to shave it. I do shave the top part though so I don't have hair sticking out of the top of my blouses. There is one thing that sucks, but admit I can't have it all. I can't stand my underarm hair. It limits my wardrobe, and I can't stand the way the hair feels. I have a satin cream colored blouse with blue floral designs that is very feminine, and love the way it feels on me. I can't wear it in public though because the sleeves are so short and my pit hair sticks out. Sigh.
Last spring, my wife shaved my pits for me to see if she could get used to it, and it was too much for her. At least she tried, and who knows what the future holds?
Oh well, at least she is still with me, supportive of my adventures and misadventures (see Mortified thread), gives me fashion advice, and loves me.
At least I shave my legs. If I had to choose between shaving legs OR pits, it would definitely be my legs!
Amber