I was talking with one of my fellow bus drivers <Helen- not her real name> tonight when she told me about 'one of those guys that like to dress like girls' got on her bus. Helen told me that she was dressed nice, red blouse, black dress pants, low heels, nice makeup; but when the passenger stepped on, she was able to 'figure it out' that it was a guy. Helen admits that she wasn't too crazy about having a cd/tg get on her bus, but kept her mouth shut. The passenger puts her fare in and asks for a transfer in a modified fem voice. Helen went off on the passenger, admonishing her for trying to 'deceive' her. <granted can't remember word for word what Helen said, but this is the just of it:> "You are a man, and while you are allowed to dress like you want, don't get on my bus and try to pretend you are a woman by trying to disguise you voice. You better talk like a man next time or you won't ride my bus. I don't appreciate being lied to you and people trying to deceive me by pretending to be something their not!" The passenger was embarrassed and sat down.
I stood there stunned. I never would have considered her to be like this. I consider her a friend and thought she was better than that. I gave her a friendly warning that she majorly crossed the line and could get in BIG trouble for saying that or sticking to what she threatened. I tried to explain that many crossdressers and transgender try to change their voice to blend in and not out themselves. She completely disagreed with me. "God made them men and they should act like it. I was well within my religious rights to put liars and deceivers off her bus. It's one thing to wear what one feels comfortable in, but another to try to pass completely as the other gender!"
No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't get through to her. She doesn't know about me, but I told her about my transgender 'cousin' <me, actually> that lowers her voice to not out themself. "Your cousin is wrong then."
"Helen, if I were you, I would never say that again to a passenger. If you have a problem with it, it is best to keep it to yourself."
Now, if that happened to me; I go into a business dressed and an employee tried to 'call me out' for changing my voice, I would go ballastic! I would get the manager, store info, corporate numbers, flash the incident on social media, contact the local news. etc! Although I would be embarrassed, I would stand up for myself and for other transgender!
I hope Helen doesn't get in trouble; and I hope that transgender doesn't think all bus drivers are like that. I hope Helen comes around. We are union though, so Helen doesn't have too much to worry about.
If I owned a business and I heard about one of my employees doing that, they would be out the door!
Amber