Make that MANY CDers worst nightmare.
THE question.
From friends or family. Or a complete stranger. What many who are just itching to leap out of their closet into the RW, use as an excuse to remain in the "safety" of their home.
If you are not one of those MANY, then there is no reason this question should put a bur in your saddle. There are many here who "complain" on a regular basis, that the RW [aka"Society"] just not does accept CDers./gays are more accepted etc. or something to that effect.
There is NOTHING WRONG with Gay people. Or CDers.
So WHY are so many people so fearful that should they venture out en femme, that someone might clock them, and heaven forrbid, perhaps SPEAK to them and ask "ARE YOU GAY"?
So far as I know, no person, Gay or not, has ever died from simply being being ASKED that question. Undoubtedly, some have probably been killed based on their response. But the news would be all over that in a flash and it isn't and I happen to live in the state likely the capitol of the US, for murder and mayhem. Has to be extremely rare. MOST people here are "sharp enough" [I hope] not to be caught alone or at night in a questionable area of town??? En femme or NOT?
So WHY such fear over THAT question? Or is it simply a convenient excuse?
I can think of numerous other reasons, people might be AFRAID to leave their house "dressed", but fear of THAT question makes little sense IMO.
Or is your excuse that you have never met a "normal'' Gay person? One who blends right in with Society. They are Gay but YOU simply are not aware of it. You would not be silly enough to think that all Gay people are alike would you? They call that stereotyping.
Certainly in your 20, 40 or 60 years on the planet, someone has either laughed at you meanly or out of cruelty for something or another, or asked you a foolish or inflamatory question? And yet, here you still are, X number of years, months, days or minutes later. Still very much A L I V E ?
IF you don't think there is anything WRONG with Gay people why not do yourself and them a favor. BE READY for that question or discussion. Come up with your own answer or response. The possibilities are limitless. Rehearse it over and over in your head or in front of a mirror.
WHEN you become ready and willing to defend THEM, you are likely to be far more able and confident to defend yourself for how you choose to dress or portray yourself.
Just an opinion. I'd like to hear yours.