I'm sorry, Stephanie! The hardest thing is making difficult relationship decisions feeling the way u do! When I separated, I still loved my ex and felt we would get back together eventually. But, she didn't and it was over. Here's what I learned:
1. My wife and I got along better as soon as we separated! My wife was/is bipolar. When she started going off on me, I simply hung up or drove home!
2. Our 2 kids benefited when we separated! No more listening to our pointless, heated arguing.
3. I would tell your wife "God helps those that help themselves". If she agrees to see a QUALIFIED therapist for her/your issues, u may consider reconciling. Make her do it BEFORE u make any moves! And, if she quits, u quit, too.
4. Do not put up with irrational co-dependant crap. Coolly explain you're done with emotional arguing, then leave. U can't have a successful relationship that way.
5. Don't for a MINUTE think this is about your dressing. It's NOT! It's about the 2 of u, period!