Hard time finding a girlfriend because of cd'ing

[miss robyn]

I know how you feel, I purged last year after I met someone, then we stopped talking then met another girl, dated her for 4months, I was ready to tell her about this side of me, but then we broke up, and now a year later I'm back to wanting to dress again...Worse part is the purging I think.

[Badtranny]

Every once in a while I feel like I want to claw your eyes out, but you are really smart..

Apparently I'm an acquired taste. ;-)

[Kate Simmons]

I think you need to decide which is more important to you. The dressing or a relationship.

[kristinacd55]

It is hard to find people who are accepting... But I am more concerned about how my sexual urges are diminished because of cd'ing and so I am less likely to ask a girl out. I will just spit it out.. I masturbate too much to cd/transexual stuff and I'd like to change that but it's hard.

Hey Julia...first let me be the last to welcome you and that's quite an observation and you nail that fact with the sexual satisfaction and cding. There are women out there who are accepting (take a look at this forum!) and they are hard to find, but if it's going to happen you just have to let it happen. My thinking is that when you find someone who you connect with, after a few dates is when you tell her about the crossdressing. If she's not somewhat accepting, then head for the hills!

[WifeofWrenchette]

If you are creative maybe you increase the odds..... I know of one crossdressers who put an ad in Craig list looking for a local female to help him shop for womens clothing.... the girl that answered the add and he are now engaged... both facebook friends of mine.... so if you keep trying the same things and it doesn't work.... (like rebooting and hoping the computer will start working)... try something out of the box and different...

I met my husband off Craigslist too and we've been together for 7 years now.

that is a really good suggestion though to have the ad state the person is looking for someone to help shop with instead of just a run of the mill personal ad. That way they know the woman is accepting of it right off the bat.

[JamieQ]

Julia, if you are into trans porn, I assume you find TV/TS attractive? If so, you might want to try finding a trans partner instead of a GG, it will be a lot easier to find someone (you still may have issues like in any relationship of course.) There are plenty of lonely trans out there in a similar situation.

Take it from someone who was your age, don't let anyone tell you that because you are young you should not worry about finding a partner and you will just find someone eventually as you get older (this is true of everything in life really.) It doesn't just happen because get older, nothing does (in fact, it only gets harder with age, for men in general meeting eligible GGs in your 30s is harder than in your early 20s, and even harder when you are 50+) Don't waste decade(s) of your life waiting around for things to happen (whatever it might be) like I did, work on whatever you need to work on now, including finding a partner. The odds of finding a fully supportive and participative GG are still quite low, but they will improve some if you work on it now.

A trans partner may be the way to go. Its something that may really work out or not. Either way then you will know for sure and you could move on.

[Jill Devine]

I can't disagree more. While this is the experience some have, there are many who have come out to their SO to acceptance. If crossdressing is your life, then you will have trouble. If crossdressing is just a part of your life, then you have a chance.

+1 on this.
Acceptance is out there as often as rejection. If you are looking but expect rejection then that's what you will find. Sadly there are many here already married to a spouse who doesn't support but that's another discussion.

If you are single, there is hope in finding miss right - especially if CD is a parttime thing and you are not transitioning.

[Maria 60]

My wife and I were out at a birthday party a few weeks ago, we were sitting on our own and two women sat a few seats away from us. One asked the other what happened to her and her boyfriend and she said he started getting freaky that he wanted to wear her panties during sex and under his jeans. The other girl said that sounds kind of fun. The other girl replied I meet them all, that's the problem if it's not one thing it's another I just have bad luck with men. I think she had the problem ,she looked like she was very picky. I turned to my wife and said If something happens between us there is a chance that it would be hard to find a women who will except Maria. My wife said for example the two women at the party one came off some bad relationships so she would not go for it, but the other one looks like she is OK with something different so you have a 50/50 chance with those two girls, the problem is you have to make the right chose. Your going to be OK it sounds like your looking to hard, when you least expect it the right one will come along, you just have to make the right chose.

[Julia Roze]

As Bob Newhart would say, "STOP IT". Crossdressing along with chronic masturbation can cause sexual dysfunction if you keep it up. If you want to continue to be able to perform with a woman without the need to wear girly things in the process, you are going to want to heed this warning... Google "Transvestic Fetishism"...

Thank you to everyone who replied, I appreciate and value your input.

I looked into http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transvestic_fetishism and I feel like I have this.