Ok so its been a LONG while since I've posted here but I have a question for you ladies.
So Recently in Ontario they added that trans people were protected by the human rights code (back in June of this year). Great! about time right...
So with that in mind I told my HR rep that I wanted to crossdress at work a few months back (August), and wanted to be able to dress as a woman. She was first saying I shouldnt do it and it took a bit to tell her this is a part of who I am. She eventually got an action plan to help me and bring a consultant to help (she made a plan and never even followed it - skipped to the last step without consent). About a month ago, a specialist came into our office and talked to everyone 1 on 1 telling them I am a crossdresser and I want to do it at work ... shortly after that we had a group meeting where the consultant talked about the human rights code and other things. The other team members asked questions left right and centre about it and how it affects them and the business... Before the meeting I was all for sure to do it, after I felt bad for putting others in this situation and potentially loosing business for us (as our clients probably do not like this - mining industry). So I got lots to think about...
Afterwards it seemed like if I wanted to dress as a woman at work I would have to present myself as a woman full time ... initially this thrilled me, but in the real life when we deal with clients frequently it can put the breaks on it.
Today I finished a follow up call with the HR and she expected that after a month I make a decision without telling me I had to make a decision when she called (I have no idea if I can do it anymore, I want to but ???). I kind of left her hanging asking for a few more months (until the end of the year) before I can decide a step like that.
What do you girls think I should do? Ignore the whole thing (most of the staff treat me the same - a few took a while to talk to me again)... or dress like a woman full time (and no gradual thing - its all or nothing with them) ... ps - I have 0 experience with makeup and have a 5oclock shadow at noon - doing laser on my face soon).
Any help is appreciated. I feel as I need to reach out to others like me and find outlets not at work. my friends that are girls all support it and let me be me around them, one is even taking me girls shopping to try on things next week (maybe I need more outlets like that)... Ideas, opinions, suggestions, anything will help.
Jackie.