Just want to say that coming here and reading posts have given me many things but most of all it has given me courage. I am a CD in a DADT situation with the wife. She is OK with panties and pantyhose but has always drawn the line there. After reading a lot of posts and taking in much of the wisdom on this site I have been able to see a way forward. Yesterday I shaved my legs (God it feels fabulous) and she did not even notice. I have started a conversation with her about wearing skirts around the house when I am not going out anywhere and once I showed her the mid calf chambry skirt that I want she did not recoil in disgust, just said she was surprised it wasn't a mini skirt. This got us onto the thread of how I really see myself when I dress. I explained that at my age (59) I do not want to look like a teenager but really as a man who is comfortable in some women's clothes that are appropriate for how I want to feel. I let her know that I love her only and just want to live out the rest of my life being me. She promised me that we would talk more about this tomorrow after Church. She then kissed me and smiled. Best talk we have ever had about my CD tendencies.
I have all of you to thank for giving me the courage to bring it up in a way that did not threaten her. I don't know where it will go but at least we are on the way. There is so much wisdom and diversity of opinion here and it is a Blessing.
Thank You
EllenJo