I have been around the forum for a bit but had a secret I did not want anyone to know - and it was about CDing.
I have been married for 37 years and told my wife before we were married. She is tolerant of my dressing but not totally accepting. I do not dress for the thrill, but truly believe there is a woman I share space with who wants to be acknowledged. I do not want to transition but simply want to be able to share my life wifh Miki.
What I didn't tell my wife (or anyone else) until last weekend was that I was raped by a Sea Scout leader when I was 15 (I am 66 now!) I simply could not hold the anger I had for this individual and what he did to me, and it came out in a letter to my wife that we read together.
My molestation did not occur because I CDed early in my life, and I did not continue to CD because of the rape. My wife thinks otherwise and suggested I get counseling. I am willing to do so, both for her sake and to see if there may be some issues left unresolved.
I am in the San Jose, CA area and would like to get a referral to a counselor who is familiar with both abuse and transgender issues. There are a lot of counselors listing their experience on the internet for San Jose, but I would prefer to have a recommendation from some gal in San Jose before I go disclosing my soul to a stranger.
I have no problem discussing any referrals in a thread on the forum as there may be someone else here in a similar situation.