Everyone is under an different umbrella we all do this for different reasons (but kinda the same ) .As far as i know there is no 12 step addiction procssess to solve this little delema we all seem to have in so many different ways !! .I have personally been to the DR;s (my xwife told him )and other specialist so far they have said ???????????????????? lol .Carry on ol chap or lady or ?????
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TFirst of all, disagree with me if you must, but please research and analyze medical, psychological, and physiological resources. The less abstract reasons for our dilemma is preferable because we are examined and questioned by society at large.
Adult males are sexually aroused by visual, graphical images, and it makes sense for MtF's, who may possess both M/F brain mapping to utilize their own cross-dressed visual image as both a turn-on and stimulation for arousal. If FtM are more prone to rely on female arousal methods, then they will use those other methods for stimulation.
First, testosterone wash at puberty is an aggressive agitation looking for an access route. For cisgenders, the route is through pictures. Otherwise, these males with ragng hormones will find a female with raging hormones. This hormone rage is probably the third wash since conception, and all cisgender males supposedly recieved greater volume or correct timing of testosterone in the fetus development of male ingredients -- for both body and brain.
While TRANS men probably are not aroused by graphical means, but retain female arousal means. Therefore, FtM do not exhibit nor propagate needs for sexual graphical interface. Crossdressing is without a preponderance of a doubt, a 3D graphical image.
Our brain mapping is all over the place, and mostly doled out to us before we were born. Then came societies blue and pink storm which pinned us to the wall, and is still alive and kicking.
Society accepts birth defects or brain development anomolies with little to no complication. But not necessrily so for transgender minds. However, referring to American Psychology Association, American Psychology Association, and American Medical Association have all addressed birth issues in regards to transgender issues. Understanding from a straight person is impossible if they aren't or haven't done the research. Some of the GGs (RD) have done remarkable at deciphering this mess, and much thanks to them.
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I have to ask, all those saying they fall into this 'A' description, how are you defining the word 'urge'? It has various definitions but all center around it meaning a super strong feeling of 'having' to do something. That's not the real question here. What is causing the urge? That's different for everyone but from my own observations, research, and my own discovery of why I dressed throughout my life, I believe the reason why a CD dresses is caused by some type of event early in their lives. I am speaking specifically about the 'standard' heterosexual CD, not TS's or CD's who are undiscovered TS's and such. The early event theory is fact for me and only something I learned by CD'ing again and studying what it was for me. I buried those memories as I believe the 'standard' CD as I described may have done the same.
So, all those years CD'd without knowing why, it came on as an urge. The 'urges' were triggered by an outside event. For me each phase of CD'ing started during really dark and lonely times in my life. When things were going well and I felt good, no 'Urge'. After I figured it all out for myself. No more urges.
Same thing with addiction. CD'ing is not a compulsion or addiction in itself. That's up the CD to make it that way as anything can become either or or.
So those who say they have the 'urge', what is causing it for you?
LMAO if you are generally a physically attractive woman, you have no idea how many times teenage boys have had sex with you in their minds.Originally Posted by DoorMat
LMAO! I won't be able to look at a teenage boy in a grocery store the same way again!
Having not lived in a male body, it's difficult for me to imagine the full extent of this, but I believe you. And, it explains why fantasy is so prevalent in the CD community.LMAO if you are generally a physically attractive woman, you have no idea how many times teenage boys have had sex with you in their minds.
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Having not lived in a male body, it's difficult for me to imagine the full extent of this, but I believe you. And, it explains why fantasy is so prevalent in the CD community.
LMAO if you are generally a physically attractive woman, you have no idea how many times teenage boys have had sex with you in their minds.Reine, it might explain one reason why fantasy is so prevalent among us. There are other reasons. I'm presently living the fantasy I've always had: living in the world as myself.Having not lived in a male body, it's difficult for me to imagine the full extent of this, but I believe you. And, it explains why fantasy is so prevalent in the CD community.
That said, when my son was a teenager I was absolutely shocked when I began to see the extent of his sex drive. Sure, I had a sex drive myself, but nothing like that. I just couldn't believe it. It did get me asking some questions about myself, too. I don't think I was ever very close to being a typical teen in that respect--and the fact doesn't bother me, either.
Annabella, agreed.
I wasn't the typical teen in this regard either. Yes, I was exploding with hormones. It really sucked being on the bus to school then hit a bump in the road and 'BING", the ' little soldier' stands at attention causing me not to want to get off the bus until it went down. LOL. But as much as I felt lust as the next boy, even after the first time I had sex I felt something was missing. Even today in my 40's, I still naturally have youthful levels of testosterone but zero lust. I can look at an extremely physically attractive women and feel my mouth hit the floor when looking but that's it. My friend however who is close in age to me, he has to turn if brain off or he will be that teenage boy with his pants bulging out!
My sex drive hasn't changed at all since I was a teenager, the difference for me is it's activated my intimacy of a woman's mind, not her physical appearance (all though that does help). Otherwise, 'just sex' for me is empty and pointless feeling, just like the empty feelings I felt after my first time.
Hmmm, I am going to start a different thread expanding on this so I don't distract from the OP and topic.
I think it starts off with "A" and ends up to "B". To explain a little further I think that it can be "treated" or "altered". For whatever reason, each of us started dressing for different reasons. Maybe our sisters forced us into it, an aunt, or maybe we found a pair of pantyhose and tried them on out of curiosity. Here is where the "alter it" comes in. You wear pantyhose, you are intrigued by it. Yes something is different about us...maybe we are more inclined to wear female clothing than other males but we start young and we get curious. Then the next thing comes along...you find a skirt and panties and you try it on. You go on to other female clothing. Your curiosity grows until you basically sitting in front of the mirror looking at your "female" self. You are officially becoming a crossdresser who is going into "B". You have not suppressed it so you made it a habit and then your personality. It is who you are now. And the curiosity keeps going. Going out, new clothing, new wig, more pictures, etc. Finally you reach a limit and then you see it either flatten out or decline. But I am guessing...that is how I think it works. If you want to quit you need to stop at the first, second, even eighth curiosity of what is next. The more you dress the harder it is. Still possible but try unlearning all that. At that point it is a matter of what makes one better off, crossdress or not. Is it worth it? Only you can answer that because nobody here really wants to quit. And when you do say you want to quit you know that the real answer is you don't. But if you really choose to quit and you aren't lying to yourself...very few will be on this forum telling you how. Only those who are in the process and then they won't say much either because they will stop cold turkey and not look back. This seems to be the pattern and this post is great because I didn't look at it that way. It goes A then B. For some it is straight B. Everyone is different and everyone will reply to this to counter my opinion and that is fine but just remember, everyone's crossdressing circumstances are different and you, me, nobody knows why we dress...you can just guess. This is my opinion based off this post. I haven't quit...will I? I have no idea. But unlike some I will support those who do and let them know they can...if they will it.
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With my tail between my legs and I'm afraid...this is not me!
Ann Carpenter: "I shared it with my son, who had just turned 18. He then came out to me that he as well had been dressing female in secret since young, off and on." Wow. Three-generations! Too bad y'all never got to go out together, the looks you'd have gotten, assuming a family resemblance, would be something to behold.
I see you live nearly full-time as a woman, has your son ever joined you by dressing at home? Have you ever gone out with the kid, both en femme? Just curious... but whattagas!
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