Heather, I'm not certain that one thing follows the other. I would say from a lot of reading here that probably a majority of cross dressers don't exactly know why they do this--there is NO original desire (if you accept them at their word), so the desire to BE a woman simply by the act of dressing cannot follow, anymore than someone putting a baseball hat on my head and by that action making me want to be Babe Ruth.
Those who say that dressing provides "stress relief" say nothing about being a woman. Those who say that dressing is a more tactile experience say nothing abut a desire to be a woman. Those who are "pleasure" dressers are certainly not claiming any female status--it is sexual.
There are some that do claim to be women in the wrong body, so then dressing would BE normal for them. Just my thoughts.