Many MTF CD would love to dress any way they want without fear of being harmed either physically, job, family, etc. Depending on the man he could lose his family, friends, job, etc. This encourages a MTF to be as passable as possible to prevent this from happening while allowing him to explore his feminine side. It seems if a MTF CD works hard enough at her appearance, she will avoid these penalties. There are two sets of rules for men and women, and we can't ignore it. If a woman is thought to be too manly she is considered assertive and a strong woman. If a man is considered feminine it is considered a negative.