I have really been thinking that joining the group would help. I am hesitant though because I am not sure if meeting once a month is posiable. I have read thier page and it seems like a friendly enough deal but I am not sure. I was wondering about the florida chapter and what it is like. Do yall stay over night at a hotel once a month? I have no clue... and yes I know I could contact them but thought I would get some input here as some of the girls have said they are part of it.
Steph
I am not sure about the FL chapter, but I would assume they just meet at the hotel. You don't have to make every meeting, just come for your initial one and then come when you can. Most folks will miss meetings here and there (especially if they have families.)
As for Tri-Ess, they certainly have their detractors in the trans community. However, they understand the hetero TV better than just about any group, and if you are one I am sure you will find some benefit from them.
Our group in Orlando is a wonderful group of girls and some spouses. We meet at a hotel and some of us get a room close to the meeting room, at a very good discount, and some choose to come only for the meetings. We have a room we get for the group to be used as a changing room so you can come in drab and get dressed there and get back to drab when ready to leave. Some come every month and some do not. We pay a yearly dues and then we pay a small amount each meeting for the dinner, which is always very good. Lots of chit chat, lots of fun. We also have a "girls night out" on Friday night before the meeting for those who want to go out more in public and even sometimes events on saturday and sunday as well.
It is so much fun for me and the ladies are very friendly and the environment is very safe. They usually will send a questionaire and do a phone interview before inviting to a meeting and a "big sister" will meet you there and introduce you to the group. The girls are a diverse group. They come from all walks of life, all professions, and we are all types, from standard crossdressers, to transexuals, and are a very understanding bunch. We have some fairly young ladies and as old as the 80's. It is a very safe and clean and friendly environment to be able to get out of the closet for a little while with others who understand.
Last edited by Angela Campbell; 12-04-2012 at 07:37 AM.
All I ever wanted was to be a girl. Is that really asking too much?
The problem I had with Tri ess was that they want to decide how far I want to go. I was strongly encouraged to be 'out', to only use female name and pronouns, to attend their meetings and trips, learn to walk and talk like a lady, basically, to go further than I was comfortable with. If your plan is to eventually be totally out or to transition, well then I think you'll be fine. Tread carefully. It's worth trying, but don't think you have to do what other people suggest just because THEY think it's a good idea.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
I'm sorry to hear that. Our chapter in Utah is a support group there for the Crossdresser and their family. If someone wants to come in drab, the do and we welcome them. On the other hand, if someone wants to learn more about makeup, hair, fashion and work on their presentation, we do what we can there as well. We also keep an ear open for the concerns and needs of spouses and/or family members because that is a significant part of why we exist.Originally Posted by sometimes_miss
It sounds like you would be welcome to visit that group in Orlando and see how it fits with your needs and desires. Be open with them in what you expect and NEVER let anyone force you to go beyond where you are comfortable. We all grow and change at our own rate and it shouldn't be based on someone elses experience or expectations.
I've found that having a chance to meet with others on a regular basis has allowed me to shed a lot of the guilt and concern that interfered with my decision making in the past. It has also given my wife a chance to visit with other spouses where they can share their concerns and develop responses that help us keep our world balanced and healthy. Good luck to you.
Sarah
Being transgender isn't a lifestyle choice. How you deal with it is.
Some will invite me to go out and before I was comfortable with it I said so and they understood. They knew what it is like. No one is pushy about it at all. If you want to get out more they are glad to help you too. Some there are simply crossdressers and only like to wear the clothes sometimes and some are transexual and are transitioning. They do not push either on anyone as far as I have seen they accept all types. I wanted to eventually go out in public and eventually did. Some do not want to and never do.
All I ever wanted was to be a girl. Is that really asking too much?
Our local Tri Ess is/was very rigid and un-accepting. Now, I'm meeting lots of local girls. None r Tri Ess's.
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Hey Sherry,
I was gonna contact someone from Ladies Knight Out. Is that the Tri Ess group you're talking about? I tried to contract LA's Alpha group and they're been disbanded.
Last edited by AnneB1nderful; 12-05-2012 at 03:38 PM.
Living and Loving in God's Grace,
Anne
I have been in touch with Carolyn, from the Orlando group, and she seems very nice. I'm hoping to join the group some time after the new year. Go to the sight and send them an e-mail. Very pleasent.
I know enough to know I don't know enough.
Peace
From what I've seen and read, each chapter has it's own personality. The one I've attended, on occasion, in Austin has discussion nights, game nights, what every strikes our fancy nights. The last one I attended was a Mary Kay party. I now have a MK rep! They don't even require the occasional visitor to join the chapter although I will be. Just very relaxed and a great group of folks.
I also was a member of the group in Orlando/Kissimmee and everyone there is wonderful. Yes, some of us went out regularly on weekends but there was never any list of do's or do not's, ever. Just a great group of gender enhanced people, spouses, and friends. Carolyn is simply awsome and very dedicated to the cause, as are many others there. Some are members here as well. As a side note, there are other Tri-Ess chapters in Florida as well; Ft. Myers, Tampa, and others.
Last edited by jillleanne; 12-04-2012 at 09:34 PM.
I have also been to the Orlando group, Almostalady is right on her description of the group. They are friendly and welcoming group. It is a safe environment to meet in. They will help you with any thing you like, but not push you in to something you are not comfortable with.
TriEss groups are very individual. Like many older groups, they had to confront the issue of their exclusion of non-heterosexual members. Some chapters changed with the times and prospered. Others, like the Alpha chapter in LA, have gone defunct.
I'd say that it's worth a try. Nothing says that you have to stick with the group if you don't like it!
Eryn
"These girls have the most beautiful dresses. And so do I! How about that!" [Kaylee, in Firefly] [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
"What do you care what other people think?" [Arlene Feynman, to her husband Richard]
"She's taller than all the women in my family, combined!" [Howard, in The Big Bang Theory]
"Tall, tall girl. The woman could hunt geese with a rake!" [Mary Cooper, in The Big Bang Theory]
I have never been asked about my sexual orientation, but I know several who date men.
All I ever wanted was to be a girl. Is that really asking too much?
I've been a member here in Nj for about 7 years and met some really wonderful people.
We meet at a hotel and usually have 2 rooms. One is for the meeting itself and one is a changing room for those who cannot or prefer not to travel dressed.
Each year we hold a Xmas party and this year will be no exception...except that instead of one changing room, we will have 2. One for the girls and one for the wives. Then what we do is usually let one of the members have the room when it's over if they decide they would prefer to spend the night. The party lasts from 7 to 11 so it's free by 12.
Anyway, that's how we handle our meetings and the problem of dressing for those that can't at home.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
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