Does your SO do ANY hobbies or activities by themselves or with their friends simply because you have no interest in them? Play bridge, go to "chick flicks", etc.?
Does your SO do ANY hobbies or activities by themselves or with their friends simply because you have no interest in them? Play bridge, go to "chick flicks", etc.?
I'd say just no but there's a 20 character minimum
No. I've been trying to encourage her to become more involved in her own activities, groups, clubs, but we seem to do everything pretty much together.
Prior to her retirement, I was a homemaker and became very used to having my own responsibilities and my own schedule, so there are times when I feel claustrophobic now. On the other hand, most of what we do, clubs, organizations, travel, the gym, is as two women friends so she accepts me.
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yes. shes plays roller derby which i have no interest in, but its a girl only sport so im not aloud anyways :P
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Yes!!!! Our marriage has been based on the fact that we are still two seperate people. We love to spend time togeather but there are times when every healthy couple should be apart.
Last year my wife went on a 14 day tour of Ireland. Before that we went on a trip to New Mexico for the Balloon Fest. We have a lot in common but everyone needs some space.
Untill I told her I was a CDer we had a trusting relationship. Now there is a little trust problem..... My fault! I go Salmon fishing in the Fall alone or with friends, she goes to visit friends 4 hours away. I work in the garage on my car, she goes out with the girls.
If you do not give someone some space the world is a very small place.
Me, a day working in the flower garden on the ponds, Her a day scrapbooking with the girls.
Now that my CDing is out in the open our time togeather means so much more...........
I still need my garage time and she really does not like to do body work. LOL
Wonderwho
.... and someday I too will become a butterfly screamed the catapiller!!!
Yes. Karren, you went WAY over the minimum.
Yes - she loves auctions (I can't stand them); she has a girls club that meets once a month; and while we love a lot of the same movies, we both have gone alone to movies the other would not like; she loves crossword puzzels, they bore me to tears.
Mina Lost aka Lynda
Thankfully yes as it has been said you need some time alone.
Yes, she runs a food pantry.
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
Very interesting question.....my SO and I have just been having a similur discussion. Yes she does go keep the grandkids, I guess that would be her hobby, which gives me a few days to myself now and then.
But she has been trying to come up with something that would be equivalent to: "if the shoe were on the other foot". IOW, what would there be that she would be into, or like to try, that would upset me as much as she is upset about CDing. Neither of us can come up with anything. She has suggested wanting to sleep with another woman, she read all three 50 Shades of Gray, or has asked: "what if I wanted to dress up like a guy?" I'm sorry, but if any of those things were something she really needed to try, or wanted to experiment with in order to better understand who she is, I would support her.
I would want to have a discussion - is this really something that is important to you? is it going to change our relationship? is this something you want to try, or is this a lifestyle change? etc. There is only one thing that I couldn't allow, and that is sleeping with another guy. I think that is obviously over the line.
Of course you ask, why could I accept her being attracted to a woman and not a man. And I guess I would feel some jealousy, but I think I could deal with it if it was something she felt she needed......and maybe I could watch,,,,sorry, bad form.
I just couldn't wear my big girl panties today.
Well Karen has enough character by herself. My wife has no hobbies. We do almost everything together. My time away is work or grocery shopping with our son.
My wife has a number of interests, but your basic premise is mistaken. I most definitely have a lot of interest in her (and she in me), and we share a number of interests together. Just because you CD doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship, including a wonderful sex life.
Miriam
Does Facebook count? That's really all she does.
She used to practice Japanese drumming a lot. These days she watches Japanese TV a lot (no subtitles so I can't understand the shows.)
Hey, my wife's a roller derby girl too!Originally Posted by Tracy - new dresser
Not really.m she's busy with work and we spend our time together when not working.
No, we do pretty much everything together.
Dana Ryan
No...same as DanaR, we do most everything together and always have.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
No. She doesn't have any interests or activities which don't involve me, although I wish she would: I often encourage her to get involved in different things. I work away from home quite a bit, and I really wish she would go out a bit more and enjoy herself, but then she'd have to arrange babysitters for the children. So, instead, she sits in during the evenings and waits for me to get home. That makes me feel guilty when I'm away, so neither of us ends up enjoying ourselves. I have a variety of interests which don't interest her, so we end up watching TV a lot when we're both in - it's the only thing we have in common. Apart from the kids, the last 15+ years, a few good friends, and great sex (not with the friends).
No for me too. Jean is an eigth grade science teacher. All of her time goes to her job.
I don't see how anybody would want to teach these students that have no respect for most things.
Of course, that doesn't include all of them.
I guess that is why she has been doing it for 34 years..gif "Big Roll Eyes")
Not really unless you count her fixation with the Twilight Saga!
We do a lot together but her current main hobby is fiber arts; spinning, knitting, etc.
She is pretty talented at it too. If I tried I'd end up with tangles.
Sandra17476
My wife watches a lot of cop shows and I can only take so much. But just recently she's discovered that she doesn't mind sex with a completely shaved man so perhaps she will have less TV time.
Yes, she is getting into climbing, which I am considering, but even if i do, I don't think I'll do as much as her. She also has some guiding duties, which take a her away for a few days a year. For the most part, we have many similat "hobies" and pursuits which we share. Some that we did before we hooked up, and some we have found that we like since. It is a source of great happiness to me that we share so much, and also let the other have their thing.
"Normal is what you get when you average out the weirdness that everybody has." Quote from my SO
Normal is a setting on a washing machine, or another word for average.
The fact that I wear a skirt as a male should not be taken as a comment on what you do, or do not wear, or how you wear it.
My wife has interests and hobbies that I am not envolved in just because she is her own person. I think that is very healthy.
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